How to get the guts to tell someone you've been raped?

Has anyone here ever been raped or molested?or sexual harrassed if so how did you get the guts to tell someone?I didn't get raped but someone I know did and I kinda want to help them so what do you suggest?please help thxz!

For me, it also happened to my twin sister. (I was sexually molested, abused and raped from a very young age to age 19 by my adoptive father) She was brave enough to tell first and then I was confronted about it and admitted that it happened. If she didn't tell I honestly would have taken it to the grave and would probably still be in that environment and situation.

As for how I tell people now... It's a really heavy topic to tell someone. I have to really trust the person and know that they can handle it. A lot of people are completely shocked and have awkward moments with me for a little while after I tell them.

A lot of family friends now say I knew something was going on but... had anyone just flat out asked me about it I would have told. But to tell on my own, I was way too petrified.

The best thing you can do is encourage them to tell so it doesn't happen to anyone else and o simply support them. Be an nonjudgmental ear that they can talk to. Just be a really great friend.

xox
Sika

I was abused from when I dont even remember to when I left home at 14-16. Myy mum got sus and madde my aunty ring me I told her everything. It felt good to get it out but also brought a lot of it back to the surface.

I was raped by my first two step-fathers, and molested and sexually abused by my last three (every guy my mom married raped/molested/abused me because they thought I was hot my dad died when I was 8 and I hated when he did.). it happened between when I was 10 and finally ended when I was 16 (last year). 6 years of hell. I tried to tell my mom but she wouldnt believe me. I now am living in a foster home, helping my two foster parents raise 2 mentally ill children (3 9), one physically challenged boy (9), and 5 other children whose parents were either drug addicts, abusers, or criminals (they are 2, 4, 5, 8, 9. the two year old's nickname is moonie pie lol luv him). but yup. it was bad.

It's something really personal and extermely painful most people are not able to admit it. My virginity was taken by someone I had known for about 3 hours and I didn't even get to say no. The first thing you need to do is comfort her and tell her parents or someone if she can't speak out. It takes a lot of rape victems to admit they were actually rape and almost 80% of rapes are not reported to police because of fear and belief they were not raped. Be a friend and support her

I have a friend, well I was only friends with her for a little while, but we were very close for the short time I new her. her dad and mom were divorced and her she had an older brother, he was mentally ill. and she has another brother who isn't ill at all. they are both older then her. one day when we were just hanging out and she asked me if she could tell me something really personal. I said sure, thinking she had a crush on someone or something stupid and lame like that. well she told me her brothers were abusing her. and I asked for more detil so I could help. she said they raped her a lot and beat her sometimes, they. molested her and her mom was in denial and wouldn't do anything. her dad said it must be a lie because they new better then that. she was alone and confused, she was only 10 are 11 and no one she told believed her. it went on like that for a few years. well we went to my parents and we got the police involved and now she is living with her mom and shes safe and SO much happier. you just have to find the ourage to tell someone, it's embaressing and awkward but you need to tell someone asap.

I was raped by a guy named richard he was my boyfriend he was 18 and I was 12
he liked me and I liked him one day he lost control and raped me yeah I had
to testify and also go to teh hospital idunno if he is in jail still or not im 15 now
and I still have memerios of it and nightmares yeah so I would tell her get
counseling and put him in jail but idunno goodluck xxx

Tell them that they are a coward and to wallow in their self pity alone because you are here to help not listen to her moans. (Reverse Psychology) (rarely works)

Ok well first off you should reassure her that there is nothing to be ashamed about. Its not her fault its the freak that raped her. If you have to record the session secretely and take it to the police.

If she doesn't have the guts to stand up for herself don't expect to stand for her.

Sorry if it sounds as if I have no compassion but I too had a cousin who was raped and she wanted to see that man burn in hell I don't see any reason why any woman shouldn't do the same.

Do not tell it everybody, but you can tell it to that people who are close to you enough without any reservation or fear. It is not your fault, like e.g. a car accident that was made by somebody else.

I was abused for a whole summer when I was younger. you have to tell someone that you feel comfortable telling

I was once blackmailed by a few guys into doing something that totally shamed me. They told me that unless I was willing to touch myself and let them watch, they'd get their older friends to rape me. The gang they hung around with had at least ten of them and they were a lot stronger than me. Then afterwards, they told everyone in their area that they'd had their fun with me and they made everyone believe that I wanted to do it. I almost commited suicide that night. But I couldn't tell anyone the truth for weeks, before I finally broke down and told my psychologist what had happened. This was after I'd been treated like I'd done something wrong. I wasn't allowed to leave the house until the truth came out. At one point before the incident happened, I was going to go on a beach trip. But as a punishment, I wasn't allowed to go. I'd never felt so miserable in my life at that moment because it felt like even my family hated me. =o(