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My parents hate me!!

My parents have favored my little sister for 9 years of my life. Now for about 3 years, my mom has been favoring my older sister. Yes I am a middle child. My sister will hit me and wont get introuble. She cusses and swears at me all the time!! She will go to my mom and say “tiana is a f-ing b!t**! Shes an A- hole!” My mom wont say anything, but sometimes she laughs. I feel so unloved. I have to do all the chores. I have to share a room with my little sister, I have to mother my little sister! My older sister is always putting me down. And she expects me to always say yes to her. Today when she asked for my dvd player I said no because she never hooked it back up in my room last time and I had to do it myself. My parents made me give it to her because she was mad and was about to cry. Crying always gets her somewhere!! If I cry, my parents dont care! What do I do?? I want to kill myself sometimes!! I even play my playstation game sing-it, its a kareoke game. I do it to calm me and its something im good at and my sisters tell me to stop playing and I have to stop.

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Answer #1

I am so glad that you wrote this. We have so much in common with our stories. My parents split three years or so ago. My mother had two children before my ‘sister’ and I, but they are adults now. She has always hated me, said it to my face, my sister, who is older, was exactly like caitiemay34 (above), even told me that my mum told her she was the favourite, and my mother confirmed it to my face. In the next breath she would say she loves me. BULL! For years, my father hardly ever saw us, no one was there for me. I used to be driven mad because of stirrer of a ‘sister’ and my ‘mother’. My sister even physically attacks me. She would even kick the life out of me and my mother, while in the same room, even though I was screaming for help, ignored and started texting. She is 18 now; can’t wait until I never have to see her again, I have for years and years now. I am so depressed and often think about drastic measures. Now I chose to live with my father, it is better than with my mother, but he ignores me and now he has been pushing me to talk more with my step-mother (who he has 3 babies with, which I love) saying she is about to give up on me. I never asked for her, she has never tried anyway. I have never had anyone to support me or to talk to, at my mothers I used to try and hide as much as possible in my closet sized room, and cryed myself to sleep so never really had conversations with a family member before, let alone a ‘mother-like’ figure before, so how am I supposed to know how. I keep to myself, but when I do try to say anything, no one listens, there in the same room but its like they can’t hear me. FRUSTRATING! Now that my S-O-… of a sister has decided to live with my father, I now have no where to be home. With her there, I am miserable. I don’t want to live here anymore with her, and she is in my room!!! ARG! My father tries to joke, but says very hurtful things, when my step-mother laughs, they all find it funny so think I am being a right little moody cow for not laughing, but it hurts. All I get is insults. The worst from my step-mother; I just want to scream adn cry at the same time. And they wonder why I don’t want to talk to her. She has different tastes to me but always critises everything, from the clothes I want to buy (which she makes me put back so I can buy the clothes she likes I.e. a european prostitute btw she is a romanian sweat shop worker, no jokes)down to the way I spend time on the computer when she doesn’t want me to, which is so hypacritical! My step-mother has always favoured my ‘sister’, and today when she called her ‘darling’ and all she says to me is my short-name or ‘oi!’ it really hit me the way she hates having me around. When my dad is drunk, he comes to talk to me about my step-mother and ‘sister’ and how I should try harder, I am never going to like them, and I am not going to do all the work! They already have me doing the majority of the housework. Nor do they give me any money to spend, not a penny. The same when I am at bording school the other side of England from them, where my ‘sister’ also goes, and I am mostly known because of her as ‘– sister’. Apparently, I don’t have a name, but in my year group, every one finds her a joke, so I am made fun of because of her. I have to save any money my grandparents give me for my birthday just to buy a bottle of cola on the weekend! I can never win! There is nothing I can do, because my parents don’t care.

I am so glad to hear that you do, and I really hope all goes well for all of you. xxx

Answer #2

Your parents dont hate you they just favor kids. Ugh! I hate when parents do that. Then usually they say I love u. MAN. Well anyways you need to talk to other people and make more friends. Talk more oftren and thats something your sisters cant take from u. True friends. I will be your friend.

Answer #3

I’m glad you wrote this too, because my mum and sister may not hate me as such…but my sister is definetly favoured. She won’t say it in those words-she’ll say some bull about how we have different personalities and I’m harder to deal with-but I know it’s true. For example, if my sister steals my clothes, which she does all the time, nobody bats and eyelid. However, if I borrow so much as a t-shirt from her, I get into loads of trouble for “stretching the clothes”. They say that I’m fat (I’m not overweight but I am a bit chunky), they say that I will never be a successfull person, they call me lazy (because I don’t have a job but I am in full time education) and they restrict me. I’m 16 but I am never allowed out, and yet they feel free to have a go at me for being cooped up inside. They make jokes about me and laugh at me and then have a go when I get upset, saying that I should learn to take a joke. Some things they say are really hurtful though and sometimes I end up crying. My sister is 14 and gets really good grades at school, and whilst mine are good also, they’re never as good as hers. She’ll get As and I’ll scrape Bs. She manipulitive aswell, and she gets away with murder. She never does any chores when we get home from school and when my folks get in I’ll get yelled at for the jobs “not being good enough”. It’s like I can’t do anything right and it really annoys me. Probably more irritating is my stepdad. We get along sometimes, but again, nothing I do is ever good enough and he’s always first to critisize and pick out my mistakes. It’s not like they hate me, but I just wished my sister wasn’t the favourite. My mum helps my stepsister at university but she says she will not be helping me because she can’t afford it. I don’t know how I will. I get told to turn my music off and to stop singing and yet nobody objects to my sister blaring her saxaphone out for hours a day. She may be good, but it’s still noise. People think she’s more mature but she’s not. She’s manipulative and bossy.

Answer #4

I don’t think they hate you, what I strongly believe you should do is write a letter to your mom and another to your sister telling them how you feel, also that you feel so bad you want to not live, but you should never feel that way, pray, pray for them and you will feel better, but don’t ever feel like not living, if you have friends talk to them, or an uncle or cool aunt tell them what’s going on, trust me it will help.

Answer #5

How old are you? You should say F*CK it and run away. I did, and my life is so awesome right now because my evil mother was a whole lot nicer and easier once I got back.

Answer #6

I understand where you are coming from. I was actually directed to your question when I was googling “how to get my parents to stop favoring my sister”, but maybe we can help each other. It’s not easy,it never is, but talking to your parents, individually, and away from home may help. when you are in the car with your dad or out shopping with your mom, just approach the subject. use a lot of “I feel statements” as they won’t feel attacked and may try to understand your feelings more than they would normally. I also need to do this, so how about we do it together. I’m heading off to college so I’m tempted to leave it alone, but I know that if I don’t stop it, it’ll keep building. I know it’s probably the same for you.

On another note, talking to your sisters probably won’t do anything, they have been pampered for the past few years and will continue to feel like they are entitled and that you are being a brat (this I do speak from personal experience about)but approaching your parents may be the best first step.

Good luck to you!

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