How can we get my son to poop in the toilet?!

I have a 3 year old (will be 4 in a few months) who is the most stubborn child on the face of the earth. We have tried the sticker chart with rewards at regular intervals. We have tried setting the timer for every 30 minutes (it made for days of...

screaming and struggle). We have tried throwing a mini party in honor of the big boy. We have tried letting him pick out his own big boy underwear (he just poops in them 10 minutes later). We have even tried letting him run around with just a t-shirt. NOTHING WORKS! So, please, before you reply with another cookie cutter remedy for so-called stubborn children, remember that we have tried them all. I am so frustrated and I need help. I am ready to throw in the towel and put him in pull ups until he is thirty, but he is supposed to start pre-kindergarten in the fall. He can't go until he can go in the right place.

I may not have a son, but i do hav a younger brother who is DEFINATELY the most stubborn in my house. We used to have the exact same problem when he was younger, and, like you, we tried everything.Then we finally found a solution.What we did was when everytime he did his business (lol) we rewarded him with a brand new hot wheel (my brother was OBSESSED with hot wheels at that age). my advice:find the one thing that your son enjoys the most, like my brother and his hot wheel's collection, so that everytime he does poop, he gets a prize.well, i hope that helps!if it doesn't, youi can always try to google it (you'd be surprised about what you can get from google!lol)good luck!

This is probably one of the hardest parts about being a parent to a young child. The dreaded potty training. Compared to my friends with toddlers, my daughter was late joining the potty club. She'll be 3 at the end of June. I bought her a little potty when she was 2 that played music when you did your business. Cute, I thought anyway. She turned it into a pool for her bath toys. I would bring that little potty out to the living room and sit her on it when she was watching a show, shhh... I know. TV is bad. I would let her sit on it fully clothed hoping she would get used to it. Nothing. I tried coaxing her to use it. Then one day, about 7 weeks ago something clicked and she decided she was going to use it to pee. YEAH! We made up new potty charts every week with her favourite characters and stickers (not that this helped her want to use the toilet, it gave her something to think about when she was sitting to take her mind off what she was doing - Which sticker do I want?). Pooing was a whole different story. She hated to poo and would fight it and hold it in until she just couldn't anymore. Then she had her first accidental poo on the potty. She didn't mean to do it, but when she did, she was delighted. But that didn't last long. The next time she had to go poo, she was doing the same thing until it accidentally came out when she went to pee. About 5 weeks of this went on until finally she has decided that the potty is ok to use to poo. We also have one of those little seats so she can sit on the regular toilet when she wants. I guess what I'm saying is that from what I've learned, kids go at there own pace. I know it's frustrating. I know that they say that boys can take longer than girls to get this step. What worked for us was when I finally stepped back and let my daughter take charge of it herself giving her the space and independence. We have hardwood floor so it's not a big deal if she has any accidents. When she was ready, she did it herself and she's no longer in pull-ups at all. If all else fails, maybe your doctor might have a suggestion for you.

Do you have some family or friends around with kids? We had a heck of a time getting our twins to use the toilet, untill they realised that their cousins were going by themselves. Then I guess they wanted to be like them.

maybe he just isnt ready. maybe try pull ups for a little longer?

I also have a son he will be 5 in a month i also had a tuff time getting him to poop in the toliet. I tried the get a toy every time you go and I found that he would only do it when there was something he really wanted and then the nect time he had to go he would poop in his pants. I also found that doing that sent a trend that if he didnt get a toy he wasnt going to use the toilet. The thing that worked for me was making it such a BIG deal and inconvience to HIM that it just was easier to go in the toilet. When he would poop his pants I would take him to the bathroom and strip him down and give him a bath then I would make him wait until I got to clean out his underwear and then he had to get dry and dressed al over agin all in all it would take about 30 min. and as a 3 year old missing 30 min of play time is torture. that seemed to work. I hope this helps you I know that this was frustrating time for me and my son but there is light at the end of the tunel I swear.

i'd say it is just a phase

I got my son to finally stop sucking his thumb in 1st grade by simple bribery. I said I'd buy him whatever he wanted at Toys R Us for $20.00 if he stopped sucking for 24 hours.

Bribe him. It will work.

i know this might sound awkward but it just might work. get two books one for you and a childrens book for your child. have potty in the bathroom and go in there with your child sit him on the toilet and you sit ond the big toilet and pretend to read while going to the bathroom.eventually your son will learn its fun to go potty while looking at a picture book.

i dont know but i think the question is funny

he will probmbly grow out of it. Tryputting him on the toletand tell him not to get off until he poops.

try singing a song or noises...it may seem stupid but it really works trust me...o0o and also try bribing or compare him to cousins or family members

good luck with that !!

diana

keep putting him on the toilet !!!

I'm having hte same problem. I've tried everything I mean everything. THere's a nerf gun haing in my bathroom for the past 7 months. His twin brother got his but he just doesn't get it. He'll just poop in his pants. I will not put him back in a pull up. I've even considered making him learn to clean his own undies that's how frusterated I am. HELPPP

HI my name is Josefina my son is 3yrs old and is attending headstart. He is having the same problem. I sit him on the toilet for 30mis, I take him after he eats, I reward him with cars, candy, praise, stickers. Nothing is working. He crys when I tell him its time to set on the potty. I think he thinks its punishment. Sometimes he goes sometimes he doesn't. But he is having to many acciedents at school. I'm so embarrased my son is the only one in his class. I need help too. Please tell me anything. I make him clean it up when he goes on himself that doesn't phase him. I know all kis are different, but he has been in underwear for over a year. He goes pee standing up and poo in his underwear.

josefinam, I read your message and I.m going through the exact same thing that you do!! my boy is a 3 years old, he pees standing with no problems but kaka he always does in his undi. He just started school a few weeks ago, and everyday im being called to come and clean him. I just don't know what to do... Today he did not go to school and I will try my best to get him sit down and do his bussiness. School is kind of upset about it as he is the only kid in his class that does it. He is there from 9am -4 pm, it a long day and there is nothing that I can do about it, with him being there for most of the day, he is more likely to do it there then at home. Im very frustrated and really do not know what to do.

Same thing. But here is the problem/solution I think. My son is almost four and wants to poop in the toilet but just can't. He sits and tries for sometimes as long as 20 minutes. He can only do it standing up. Therefore, wants to do it in a diaper. My nephew is almost three and will do it in the toilet but only if his feet are on the seat...basically practically standing/squatting. So my Dr. told me of a contraption that is a potty seat that is half standing up and half sitting to try and transition from standing to sitting. Has anyone heard of this? This was something they used in his schooling. Does anyone know where to find such a thing?

KIDS LOVE CANDY MY NEPHEW LIVES WITH ME AND HE STILL DOSENT POOP IN THE TOILET YET . MAYBE YOUR CHILD IS SCARED OF FALLIN IN THE TOILET. JUST TRY TO GET SOME CANDY AND TELL HIM IF HE POOPS IN THE TOILET THEN YOU WILL GIVE HIM SOME CANDY.

Same problem with my son. Getting better though, you just gotta stay on top of him and reassure him that it's ok to go. Pooping embarrasses a small child by this point so ya gotta remember not to show your frustration and to show lots of praise for his good deeds and give lots of patience to him. My ex ex wife prefers the spanking and corner method which is very counter productive because it will make the child afraid to poop at all because all he understands is that he went number 2 and got wooped for it. Patience and more patience is the key. Every child develops at a different pace.

I have a son who is almost 7yrs old and up until the beginning of this year he went to the loo just fine but now refuses to use the loo for pooh's. I am at my wits end and have tried everything suggested above.. I have a cousin who is a nurse who suggested coloxyl drops to help loosen the stools, but that still doesn'twork he hangs on and does it in his pants.. I have now resorted to taking him to the doctor who has suggested an x-ray of his abdomen in the hope we will find something helpful... I also had the same problem when I was little and so have a few members of my family I have heard it said that it may be a inherited condition, so sometimes there may be NO answer at all. Just lots of patience,understanding and love...

Grandfather responding. Take it easy. These kids try to take us all for a ride. Don't get caught in their gimmicks! Ignore. The moment they know you are upset they try to agitate you. Cool. Finally you will WIN !!!

LOVE CONQUERS ALL.