How can we get my son to poop in the toilet?!

I have a 3 year old (will be 4 in a few months) who is the most stubborn child on the face of the earth. We have tried the sticker chart with rewards at regular intervals. We have tried setting the timer for every 30 minutes (it made for days of screaming and struggle). We have tried throwing a mini party in honor of the 'big boy.' We have tried letting him pick out his own big boy underwear (he just poops in them 10 minutes later). We have even tried letting him run around with just a t-shirt. NOTHING WORKS! So, please, before you reply with another cookie cutter remedy for so-called stubborn children, remember that we have tried them all. I am so frustrated and I need help. I am ready to throw in the towel and put him in pull ups until he is thirty, but he is supposed to start pre-kindergarten in the fall. He can't go until he can 'go' in the right place.

I may not have a son, but I do have a younger brother who is DEFINATELY the most stubborn in my house. We used to have the exact same problem when he was younger, and, like you, we tried everything.Then we finally found a solution.What we did was when everytime he did his 'business' (lol) we rewarded him with a brand new hot wheel (my brother was OBSESSED with hot wheels at that age). my advice:find the one thing that your son enjoys the most, like my brother and his hot wheel's collection, so that everytime he does poop, he gets a 'prize'.well, I hope that helps!if it doesn't, youi can always try to 'google' it (you'd be surprised about what you can get from google!lol)good luck!

This is probably one of the hardest parts about being a parent to a young child. The dreaded potty training. Compared to my 'friends' with toddlers, my daughter was late joining the potty club. She'll be 3 at the end of June. I bought her a little potty when she was 2 that played music when you did your business. Cute, I thought anyway. She turned it into a pool for her bath toys. I would bring that little potty out to the living room and sit her on it when she was watching a show, shhh... I know. TV is bad. I would let her sit on it fully clothed hoping she would get used to it. Nothing. I tried coaxing her to use it. Then one day, about 7 weeks ago something clicked and she decided she was going to use it to pee. YEAH! We made up new potty charts every week with her favourite characters and stickers (not that this helped her want to use the toilet, it gave her something to think about when she was sitting to take her mind off what she was doing - 'Which sticker do I want?'). Pooing was a whole different story. She hated to poo and would fight it and hold it in until she just couldn't anymore. Then she had her first accidental poo on the potty. She didn't mean to do it, but when she did, she was delighted. But that didn't last long. The next time she had to go poo, she was doing the same thing until it accidentally came out when she went to pee. About 5 weeks of this went on until finally she has decided that the potty is ok to use to poo. We also have one of those little seats so she can sit on the regular toilet when she wants. I guess what I'm saying is that from what I've learned, kids go at there own pace. I know it's frustrating. I know that they say that boys can take longer than girls to get this step. What worked for us was when I finally stepped back and let my daughter take charge of it herself giving her the space and independence. We have hardwood floor so it's not a big deal if she has any accidents. When she was ready, she did it herself and she's no longer in pull-ups at all. If all else fails, maybe your doctor might have a suggestion for you.

Do you have some family or friends around with kids? We had a heck of a time getting our twins to use the toilet, untill they realised that their cousins were going by themselves. Then I guess they wanted to be like them.

maybe he just isnt ready. maybe try pull ups for a little longer?

I also have a son he will be 5 in a month I also had a tuff time getting him to poop in the toliet. I tried the 'get a toy' every time you go and I found that he would only do it when there was something he really wanted and then the nect time he had to go he would poop in his pants. I also found that doing that sent a trend that if he didnt get a toy he wasnt going to use the toilet. The thing that worked for me was making it such a BIG deal and inconvience to HIM that it just was easier to go in the toilet. When he would poop his pants I would take him to the bathroom and strip him down and give him a bath then I would make him wait until I got to clean out his underwear and then he had to get dry and dressed al over agin all in all it would take about 30 min. and as a 3 year old missing 30 min of play time is torture. that seemed to work. I hope this helps you I know that this was frustrating time for me and my son but there is light at the end of the tunel I swear.

I'd say it is just a phase

I got my son to finally stop sucking his thumb in 1st grade by simple bribery. I said I'd buy him whatever he wanted at Toys are Us for $20.00 if he stopped sucking for 24 hours.

Bribe him. It will work.

I know this might sound awkward but it just might work. get two books one for you and a childrens book for your child. have potty in the bathroom and go in there with your child sit him on the toilet and you sit ond the big toilet and pretend to read while going to the bathroom.eventually your son will learn its fun to go potty while looking at a picture book.

I dont know but I think the question is funny

he will probmbly grow out of it. Tryputting him on the toletand tell him not to get off until he poops.

try singing a song or noises...it may seem stupid but it really works trust me...o0o and also try bribing or compare him to cousins or family members

good luck with that !!

diana

keep putting him on the toilet !!!

I'm having hte same problem. I've tried everything I mean everything. THere's a nerf gun haing in my bathroom for the past 7 months. His twin brother got his but he just doesn't get it. He'll just poop in his pants. I will not put him back in a pull up. I've even considered making him learn to clean his own undies that's how frusterated I am. HELPPP