How to deal with my overbearing mom?

I hate being home! My mom is always always always putting me down and I am so sick of it. She always complains to me about how somehow she got stuck with such a horrible kid a.k.a. me. She is the reason for my low self esteem and I feel like I'll never...

be able have a good self esteem again. I have never gotten along with my dad either. I rarely see him anymore, maybe 3 times a year. I would like to talk to my step dad but he's not the same as having my dad around. My mom even tells my brother horrible things about me and I really don't know what I did to deserve this. She wants me to be perfect and because of that I want myself to be perfect. I've gone to extreme lengths to achieve perfection and I am always unhappy with myself. What do I do?

Tell her what she is doin to ya. Tell her she makes ya feel horrible when ya dont deserve to feel like that. If yav done nothin wrong then tell her she is makin ya misereble and that she cannot take things out on her own kids, that is complitly shokin!!!

Talk to her about it.
If you can't get through to her, talk to a school guidance counselor or something.

Dear mb789,
You must see a counsellor at school. They can help you with this. They will teach you how to get along better with people and to communicate better. You must take some responsibility in this as well and always remember we can't change others only ourselves. It seems it's time for a change.
Sue...good luck

wats up girl let me tell you what I will do.my moms cool so I don't have that but, I'll tell her chill out some time or do stuff for her without her asking you to that might work.

Develop a winner attitude. She is one person and she is putting her own self hatred on you. She is also problably jealous of you because you are young and have your whole life in front of you. See her as a pitiful character and focus only on your interests and in learning, not perfection, - and if she really gets to you remind her she is just being mean to you because she knows what a loser she is - that will shut her up for a few moments. If you can just put on a jacket and go for a forty minute walk till she calms down her rant, but only if it is safe for you to go out. Never put yourself or anyone else in danger just because your mother is unhappy with her own life. Your life is too precious and remember this situation is not forever. You'll have your independence some day. Just hang in there and do get some good counceling from a reliable source you can trust.