How to deal with a controlling and overbearing mother-in-law

My mother-in-law and I have been really close and have always gotten along. She has been great to me and we've been good friends...
Until...
I got pregnant...
So. I'm pregnant now, and she's being so controlling and overbearing about this baby in my belly.. I'm glad she is excited and happy to be a grandma and all, but grandmas do not make all the decisions, the parents do!! Right?!?
She thinks she should be able to name the baby.
She thinks this baby is hers, she's calling it hers!!
She wants to make the rules of life for this baby!
She wants to choose who can see and who can't see the baby!
She thinks I should leave the baby with her all the time!

She wants to name the baby.. I told her to give me suggestions if we (baby daddy and I) decide we like it we may use it...
So she gave us her suggestions.. We didn't really care for many of them.. If I liked it, he didn't, so it was a long hard battle...
The whole naming a baby thing is always hard... But when you throw more people into the name game instead of just mommy & daddy it makes it even more hard!!
So.. We decided on our boy name and our girl name.. And we are set with our names...
The mother-in-law.. Does not like the names.. She finds every excuse in the book to make fun of the names and so on... She says if we name the baby a name she doesn't like she's just going to call the baby by a different name!!
I told her she needs to settle down and agree with our names cause once that baby comes the name will fit him/her just perfectly...
So.. She still through a fit...
I told her to stop complaining and nagging about the names we picked or we are changing the boy name to her ex-husbands name- baby's daddy's dad's name. (I would never, but I knew it would bug her). That must have been a bad thing to say! Cause she let me hear about it for the next 3 hours. How he didn't deserve to have a baby named after him.. And I'm being an a**hole and rude to her.
She contined to tell us that if we ever let our baby see his/her other grandparents (baby's dad's dad and step mom) that the mom-in-law would never feel the same about our baby.
I just told her she'd be missing out on the baby's life then.
She said baby would be missing out on her..
Then she continued to tell me that my baby will not be spoiled like I was growing up.
That she will force my baby to eat bread crust even if he/she doesn't want to.
I told her. Then my baby will never be left with you alone..

I would never ever want to keep my baby away from any of its family! That's why we are being fair and allowing the "other" grandparents to see the baby whenever they want. Just because there was a divorce in the family doesn't mean it needs to break up the whole family!!
Come on!!

What do I do in this situation!!!???

Please help!! This is forcing me to go crazy and get stressed.. And being pregnant and stressed is not good!!

I'm ready to just pick up and run away from this family.. But I don't really want to.. I just want the craziness to go away...

I want people to love my child.. But not be too overbearing and try to tell me what I need to do and what I can't do with my very own baby!!!

Please please help!!

Thanks a bunch!!

you need to have a heart to heart with your mother in law. ask her for some time to go out for smoothies or something so you can have some time to talk (an in public she can't be loud and obnoxious without making a scene and embarrassing herself). write down all of your concerns and make bullet points. ask for her permission to speak without being interrupted and let her know she will have her time where you listen. You need to be very clear about what you would like her role to entail. tell her what your expectations and boundaries are. and let her know how she is offending you with her current behaviour. tell her that you love her and you want her to be in your childs life, but her time with the baby will be in good taste and she needs to play by your rules, or don't play at all. let her know that you respect her opinion and you and your spouse will lovingly consider all of her suggestions b/c you know she has so much experience yadda yadda yadda.

just tell her how you feel. it is your job to protect your baby from harm (physical, psycological, and otherwise) don't let her bully you, you have all the cards.

hmmm to tell you the truth the only way I can think of is to go with her ideas unbtil the baby is born...if you have tried to talk to her and nothing is happening then you have to take matters into your own hands...

this can be quite hard because she is your mother in law...
but I think if you put your foot down on these matters and dont take no as an answer ull be ok...

*sigh* besides that there really is no way you can do this... I mean it is your baby and you are bringing it to this world...

you could also try explaining to her what you have just explained here?

on a lighter note...they say hope and the mother in law die last (its just a joke dont take it the hard way)

THANKS SO MUCH for your input!! I'm so floored with the way she's been acting I'm willing to try anything at this point!! Or just run away from it all an dnever let anyone see my baby!! But I know that' is NOT the right thing to do and it would not help matters at all!!
I do think I need to try and talk to her.. but at this point I don't know if I should.. I'm so mad still, and I don't think I should be the one initiating the "talk." Maybe I'm just being stubborn.. but I think after how she is acting and the things she's said, I think she should apologize to me and then from there I can sit down and talk with her and tell her how I feel and how I wish she would act differently!..
The joke: "They say hope and the mother in law die last.." is hillarious!!!

I guess this is just anther battle or mountain to climb in this so called life to make me stronger and prepare me for the future and what will come!!

Thanks to all who have answered and helped out!!

Punch her in the god damn mouth and let her know its yoor god damn child sorry but same thing happend with me yet I had a miscarridge from stress that my sister put on me about the baby and how she was going to be there for it and it should be named what she wants it to and what not dont let her stress yooh girl! be uh soljah aye