How to deal with my mom dating already? (continued)

she is not even legally separated, she is still in the house with me and my dad n bro...she has been doing it for three years now...its not a typical divorce at all. i catch her in lies all of the time, plus my gma and aunt told me that she told them,...

she has been looking for reasons to leave my dad since i was in 6th grade...and im in 12th, she told them she wants freedom i dont know, i just cant trust her i guess, its not easy having a mom like this to look up to

Dear treeoflife,
I've read your previous post and there seems to be something missing here...mainly your dad? There is no way that he doesn't know what is happening here. So we can perhaps assume that he does know and is allowing it to happen. There are a few reasons for this...they agree on this because they feel they need to be together for the children, they've agreed to both date others while continuing their own type of relationship or dad could care less about what your mother does and they continue to live in the same house but with totally different lifestyles. That doesn't mean any of these reasons are right to the rest of us but at some level seems okay with them. Unfortunately sometimes we see only 1/2 the picture and unless they are willing to talk with you about it that is all you will see. At your age you know right from wrong and not having a mother you feel you can look up to is sad to say the least. Just remember you can't change others only yourself so it's how you deal with it that is important.
Sue...good luck