How to tell your mom that you are sexually active?

Well... I am 15 years old. I am almost 16. I want to tell my mom, but I have not the faintest clue on how to go about telling her. I also want birth control. I do not know how she would take it. She is not religious or anything, but she is strict. My...

current boyfriend and I have talked about telling her so I can get on birth control. I have no clue what to expect. I could ask my counselor about how I should tell her or I could ask her to tell her for me, but that would show me being a coward and immature to discuss sex. I am afraid of the reaction because she tends to over react on certain subjects. She did tell me a few months back that if I wanted to have sex I need to be on birth control. I just do not know what to do. My boyfriend said to me he wants to be there when we tell her... please help. Thank you.

I suggest you only tell her if you and her have that close mother/daughter bond. I was never close to my mom so I don't know what thats like. If you don't, tell someone else. You don't need her in order to get birth control, you can go to a womans clinic or call your doctor yourself. Get on B.C as soon as you can. You are going on 16, time to do things on your own =] good luck!!

Well, mothers want their daughters ( and sons) to be safe. By telling her, your mom will see that you're mature enough to talk to her. At first she will most likely be very concerned, but if she knows that you're sexually active then no doubt you will be able to go on birth control. Good luck and stay strong!

You definitely need to be on birth control (BC), you're right. It sounds like she might be okay with it, since she told you that if you have sex, you should be on BC. If you're scared to tell her in person, it's not cowardly to write her a letter or email.

I think it would be good to talk to her, b/c if you have emotional or practical worries about sexual issues, you can turn to her. She's probably got good advice and can help you, even if she does overreact sometimes. And like another poster said, it shows you're mature and you trust her. Your mom will probably be flattered that you told her.

I think it would be good to talk to her, but if you decide you can't, don't let that stop you from getting BC!

Some thoughts:
-You don't have to take the Pill or use other prescription BC methods. If you can go to the store without her, just buy condoms and another BC method. For example, you can get a very thin film with spermicide on it that you insert in your vagina anywhere between 3 hours and 15 minutes before you have sex. Neither of you can feel it. Anyone can buy it- you don't have to be a certain age or need a prescription, just like with condoms.
-Condoms safeguard against STDs, too, more than other BC methods.
-If you can go to Planned Parenthood or another family planning clinic, they can usually write you a prescription without your mom's consent. The Pill is usually cheaper there, too.
-Here's a really helpful link about different forms of BC:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/birth-control.htm
-Have you been vaccinated against HPV? If not, ask your doctor if you should, b/c it can protect you against cervical cancer. If you're having sex, it's a good thing to consider.

Good luck, and remember, your mom was your age once. She probably has a good idea of what you're thinking and feeling.

You could say, Hey mom, when are we going to have that mother - daughter talk