How to deal with a butthole of a sister-in-law?

I have sisterinlaw that is married to my brother wich is in the army he is going to irac in may and he is going to be fighting this time and I'm 13 and am very sad about it he has to live in missouri and I'm in virgina but my sisterinlaw is just not right they were living in missouri but she came back than went back and than came back again and my brother is by is self up in missouri they fight all the time but she fights over stupid stuff and she is just making thangs allote worse she needs to grow up

Hi Hun,
I use to be a military wife. But I know what your are talking about. My husband was in the Marines. Your sister-in-law is like a lot of insensative military wives. She sounds very selfish and inmature. Unfortunatly it's a situtation I saw way to much of back then. Your brother should get a little leave time or family time before he has to go to Irac. Maybe he can come visit you and the two of you can spend some time just hanging out. As for her, if she is like most other selfish, inmature ones, she will probably divorce him when he gets back. All you can do is ignore her stupidity and be there for your brother. I know it's tough. My husband was deployed 2 times in 4 years. But have faith that he will be ok and come home safe. Be sure and get his company address so you can write to him and he can write back. It means a lot to them when they are overthere.
Take Care and God Bless
Mel