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Okay, My cousin and her 14yr daugther had a vacation in my appartment. My room was messy so they cleaned my room. Her daughter found some porn and was very upset about it and then we had some arguments. Next thing, she found some empty bottles of beer and then she was upset again. When she asked me if I ever went to a strip bar, I said I used to do that a lot when I was a younger and then she told me that she's really disappointed. She also tells my a lot that I need loose weight so that maybe girls will like me. She also ask me a lot about my clothes if I just bought my clothes by random or because I like them. She also asks if I already put my deodorant on or if I already took a shower or not. One time she said, she wants to see me how I shave my face. So she was watching me shave and when we went to a Mall I saw a few long hair left under my chin when I was in front of a mirror, and she said "dont move" and then she pulled them all. I'm 25 so my question is; is it normal for a younger female relative to get upset knowing that I'd been drinking, watching porn, and been going out to stripbars? Is it normal that she makes a lot of compliments? What does these things mean?
First of all you're 25 and she's 14. It's none of her business what you do nor are you under any obligation to answer any of her questions. Second of all she made it her business to involve herself when she found evidence of your activities while cleaning your room. It was nice of them to want to help but i personally consider it an invasion of privacy unless they had told you they were going to pick up. Tell your little cousin to mind her own business and thank you for caring but you can handle things on your own. She's 14, she's not your mother but it sounds like she's trying to be.
OK, let's say that your cousin's 14 y old daugher has nothing to do with your drinking/porn/stripbar etc. habit, but I think she is a nice and attendant person who wants somehow care about you, who is curious of you/ etc. I advice you to be nice with her, joke with here a lot, do not hurt her saying that something is not her business, but perhaps you may explain that an adult male may have different feelings than a 14 yo female.
CLARIFICATION:
Yes, It was my cousins 14yr old daughter who was telling you what to do.
