My boyfriend and I have been together for a month now..and I really have fallen for him. I am having mixed feelings about what the next step is. I want to take it a step further, but at the same time I have that fear of maybe sex is all that well ever do together. Hes a wonderful guy..what should I do...
This is one of those questions that is almost impossible to answer. Nobody here will be able to tell you with any great accuracy, whether or not sex would be the best move in your relationship. Speaking generally though, taking a relationship to the next step is something that you should (if you choose to) do with someone you trust, are comfortable with, know very well, etc. If this person respects you, treats you well, is not pressuring you and if he shares the emotions which you have for him, then it is hard for anyone here to say that you should not consider sex, lol.
All that being said... One month is not necessarily a very long time. It may be wise to consider waiting and giving yourselves more time to get to know each other better and to see what course your relationship takes on an emotional level as well. Sex is not the only physical interaction you two can share (as we all know :P). Consider your own feelings and values here. When we are uncertain as to whether or not we are ready for sex in a particular relationship, then generally we shouldn't be having it. But, if you feel comfortable with this person and know that you can trust him with your body, then who's to say you should not take the next step?
Personally, I would wait a bit longer... But this isn't my decision to make. Take as much time as you need to prepare yourself for this. A decent guy will be patient with you and will not pressure you into having sex when you don't feel completely ready to in your relationship. There is no rush, so give yourself some breathing space and consider your feelings for this person. You know him better than we do and that probably won't change, lol. Hope you are able to work this out :)!
Most people do it on the third date. But after a month I gather thats long gone (no offense) Think it over in your head. Are you ready? Do you know him well enough? Its whenever you're both ready.
