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What would you do if you discovered you had a sister?

Recently, I found out that I may have a sister. I’m 54 years old and when my Mom was pregnant with me or one of my brothers, my Dad had an affair with another woman.

The woman had a daughter and she is around the same age as me. I don’t think she knows anything about it, but, if she feels like me, she would be happy to know she had a sister that she didn’t know about, although, she may not be so happy about thinking the Dad she grew up with, may not have been her real father. BTW, he and my Dad have both passed away.

I have done research and I know who she is but I wouldn’t contact her until I figured out a way to do it w/o upsetting her and her life.

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Answer #1

My mom found out that she has a brother when my grandpa {their dad} died a few years ago.. My aunt had told her about him, and he showed up at the funeral.. but didnt stay long or anything, because he didnt know anyone, and wasnt sure what to do about it. He kept putting off meeting us, and then last month him, his wife, and son and his mother came up from Georgia for a little picnic, with just a few of our family members [it was supposed to be my mom, her 2 sisters and brother, but everyone but my mom was busy].. So we just had a little picnic, and got to know each other, and now they plan to come to our family reunion this month!

so maybe you could just try to call her, or write her a letter letting her know about everything.. and then if she seems ok with it, get together just by yourself, and if shes still ok with everything.. maybe get together with more family?

good luck :] hopefully shes as accepting about it as my family was.

Answer #2

Thank you, everyone. I really appreciate all of your stories and your suggestions. I am very surprised that there are so many people with similar situations. I wish I could rate more than one answer. Thnx, Kat =^u^=

Answer #3

you should tell her. everyone deserves to no the truth. Just think if you would like to no if you was her. im sure everything will turn out just fine its better late than never.

good luckkk:)

kee x

Answer #4

I found out I had a younger brother when I was 12 he didnt find out til 2 years later when he was turnung 7 at that age it is hard to understand for him but for me I was really happy you should contact her bc she has a rite to know she will probably be glad she has a sibling I was

Answer #5

Contact your half sister’s mom. Let her know how you feel and that you want to meet her, but not at the risk of sending her life into upheaval. That seems, to me, the safest way to go about it.

Answer #6

I found out that I had two younger sister when I was 16 and for years me and my father didnt talk until I was 23 and took a DNA test and when they knew about me the oldest was 12 at the time she kept wondering about me and thought about me and when I asked for the test and it came back that I was his they accepted me to bad they live in another state I am now 26

Answer #7

I too found out I had a sister I was 12 and she was 9 ofcoarse im now 17 so it wasnt too long ago it came as a shock ofcoarse but all you can do is accept it and welcome them into your life:) my lil sister is now like one of my best friends:) this will change her life so theres no right time…just do it…she will come to grips with it soon enough:) good luck -v-

Answer #8

I finally got to meet a step brother in 2004 . we finally found him .it was wonderful;;

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