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What do I do? My 16 year old son wants to live with his dad?

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My son and I have a great relationship. But my son is wondering what it would be like to live with his dad. I gave up child support and "excused" it away in court for 11 years. he's only been paying my for 4 years. the rest was "forgiven" now he's bribing my son to live with him. and eek.. Will I end up paying child support? I don't want to lose my sone either!! my son doesn't see that he's being bribed and I don't want to tell him because it will make him hate me. he just thinks it's a bit unfair that I'm not buying him a motorcycle without him having a job. my rule was he needs to get a job and buy his own motorcycle. I already gave him a car. he's in drivers ed. he has his motorcycles license. anyway... he feels like he shouldn't be in this position to have to choose. And he'd like to see what it feels like to live and go to school over there... Yet there are a lot of reasons "not" to leave too. he doesnt' know what to do. and neither do I. I'm afraid if I help him go... He may love it over there and never return except for visits. I also don't want to pay child support to some loser that didn't pay me for 11 years (but I was stupid enough to forgive and write off the debt)... Won't that have him laughing to not only not have to pay again... But me pay him!!! that just chaps my hide! help??