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What can't I cum??

I am a young 18yr old and all the women I have been with not oe has made me cum by having sex…..I can really go on forever and I almost get there but can never go. I hate it because it make my partner think shes doing somthing wrong, I have no clue what is but I want to fix it ASAP. I was circumsized when I was a baby so I know its not that and its weird because I can masturbate and I can cum fine but can never cum during sex…….And I know its not becuase I dont like women I just dont know whats wrong….Someone please gimme some help!

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Answer #1

The technical term for this is nasty sounding: “ejaculatory incompetence.”

Don’t sweat it. It took me a while before I felt comfortable enough to climax durring coitus. It is one of those things where the more you worry about it the harder it is to overcome (pun intended). With my first wife when our relationship turned rocky the problem returned even worse; sometimes I went 3 hours trying to finish before I got so exhausted I had to give up. Now that I’m in a better relationship no problems.

Assure your partner that you’ve had this problem before and it isn’t anything she is or isn’t doing. Tell her that you enjoy sex even if you don’t climax. She can always help you masturbate if she is willing..

For me alcohol causes me to take longer than usual. You might want to avoid alcohol before sex until you get past this.

Answer #2

The main reason for not ejaculating is psychological. This could stem from any number of things. Religious background, fear of pregnancy for your girlfriend or being unnatural in an attempt to be super lover. The other reason is your masturbation habits. When males mastubate they generally use a lot of force. Vaginal sex does not have the vice grip feel of manual stimulation. Try and not masturbate for a period of time before you have sex with your girlfriend. Avoid alcohol, relax and be spontaneous.

It will be well worth the effort. The release from vaginal sex is far more satisfying than from masturbation. You want to share a bond with your girlfriend. The benefits of a good relationship go far beyond sex only.
Answer #3

You have to realise that when you have sex, the brain is the biggest factor that puts you in the mood. Obviously you are stressing and when you have sex you are putting yourself under so much pressure to cum that your mind isnt getting into it therefore, arnt cumming. You need to relax! when you are getting into it stop stressing, focus on her and watch her it will turn you on. Try different things to, maybe have longer foreplay to get your mind in the right mood, try different positions to see what works best for you, the most important thing is to let go and get into it.

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