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I am 17 and my parents kicked me out so now I live with my cousin but her husband and I dont get along and he does not want me there, and I cant ask my cousin to choose between us. My parents said that I have to stay with my cousin or come home. I can’t stay with my cousin because I may cause them to get a divorce, but I dont get along with my parents or brothers and I do not want to live there.

my parents treat me differently than my brothers. they never do chores and I have to clean the whole house! I am not allowed to stay the night at other peoples house and no one can stay the night with me. But my brothers stay eith their friends all the time!

I was failing math and my parents tried to take my car from me and I dont even live with them. However my brother was failing two classes and never even got grounded. My brothers also tell everyone that I am a wh*re and they start nasty rumors about me. I have told my parents but they dont care

My parents got into my facebook and read all of my things and accused me of sleeping around and doing drugs so I left and then they called the cops on me and I got arrested for running away. then we got into an arguement because I fell asleep and didnt do the dishes and my mom said to leave and not come back.

My question is what can I do so I dont have to go back?

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Answer #1

You’re 17 so you wouldn’t have that much longer at home anyway - family is for life so do your best to make things better - it’s not fair for you to cause a strain on your cousins marriage and I’m sure you don’t want that either - if you need to look in the mirror and self-evaluate, do so - remember: ‘this too will pass’…I’m sure you’ll do the right thing and I wish you the best !!

Answer #2

baby girl I am so sorry but your not the only one trust me,,, you r 17 in another year your out!! when you r 18 they cant say a thing!!!

urs not the only one who parents make you do everything and your siblings dont have to do a thing,,,

my brother told me mom I was making out with all these guys at skool and it wasnt true but she believed him anyways!! so trust me I know the feeling thats why when I own things like a car or cell phone I buy it my self,,,

im really sorry girl honestly the only thing that helps me is I turn to god I know it might sound funni but no one in this world gives a $hit about you except god hes always cared ,,,

I don’t know your probably not big on reading neither am I but I picked up a book called “kissed the girls and made them vry” by lisa

I don’t know her last name

dont judge by the name because its nothing like what it looks like

Answer #3

Hi kodacole09. I agree with sue90. It sounds like you victimize yourself but if you have problems with everyone around you, you may be the problem.

I understand how you feel about how your brothers get away with everything and you get the 3rd degree on everything. I think a lot of girls (including myself) grew up that way. Parents are more protective over their daughters than sons because they think girls are more naive. Another good example of why parents are like this is because let’s say you got pregnant and the guy doesn’t want anything to do with the baby. The baby is growing in your stomach. If you choose to get an abortion then you might go through a depression or if you choose to keep the baby then you will sacrifice everything in your life for this baby. Ultimately, your parents will be helping you through your financial and emotional stress. If a boy gets a girl pregnant, he can just pay child support and not have anything to do with the kid if he chooses not to. He has no emotional attachment and can just live his life freely. I grew up with my Father saying that boys don’t have to do chores either. I know it may seem like forever but you won’t be young and dependent on them forever. You’ll grow up and move out on your own.

I think you should try to get professional help because there may be deep pain you’ve locked inside you and it’s just coming out as if you think the world is against you. Take care and I hope I was able to help.

Answer #4

Dear kodacole09, You need to speak with a school counsellor or go to your doctor for information on counselling…perhaps they can get you into regular counselling. You are unable to get along with anyone around you. You feel victimized and you feel that you could be responsible for your cousin divorcing. All these things need to be addressed by a professional. You cannot change the people around you, you can only change yourself and you are responsible for yourself. Go to social services and they may set you up with housing on the condition you stay in school and get counselling. It’s time start finding ways to get along with others. Sue…good luck

Answer #5

U just read my life storey !!!

GROW UP! I did and every thin is great

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