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So I am a beautiful young lady who has never had a boyfriend nor kissed nor even held a guys hand. I am 18 ...almost 19 and have been talking to a guy. I have really high standards in the sense that I want a guy who works, goes to college, is nice, respectful etc.

So I suppose I had a first date...he called it that...with him and things went wrong. We went out for coffee quite late so the shop closed and we went to his vehicle. We were parked in a lot that apparently became close with a chain (we did not realize this since we were conversing). We realized they chained us in ...I know funny...after I stated that I had to use the rest room. My dorm building was not too far so we went there and I told him he could stay he said can just go back but I said no that is sad. You see I am nice and compassionate so I did not want him nor desire anyone to stay outside especially in the city I live in...tis dangerous. He got the wrong idea and I did not let him do anything...if you know what I mean.

I explained he was not going to get anything from me and he said ok and was sweet and all. After like a a week or two of knowing each other he already wanted to be my boyfriend but I said that he actually had to ask my parents permission after we got to know each other more. Summer break came we spoke almost every night for like an hour but then I stopped calling him and so he kept calling then one day he just stopped. After 3 weeks I facebooked him and we have somewhat spoken.

I am not sure if he is still interested what do you think? He says he would like to meet up after the summer but he has not messaged me in a while. It might be because he works two jobs...not sure.

His ex-girlfriend will be near by next year and she wanted him to help her move in what do you think? I said I did not like this idea and he wanted me to meet her. I honestly don't want to meet her.

He already had his first time with her and she was not a virgin but ehh.

I hate that he is not one and told him I was not going to do that with him...he said ok but then he was like "I will convince you" --I hated that comment.

I want him to respect this decision. I am not going to until I am married.

Should I just forget about him? I am not sure I can get over the fact that he is no longer one...it disgusts me and when he is near me I imagine him with a girl doing that and I become more distant.

He is great in that he is smart, cute, driven and hard-working but I am not sure about him :(

I have told him I am only going to kiss him after he is my boyfriend he said ok but has tried any how...

He slept over at my dorm but just slept a couple times and has been great but he is weird sometimes and would kind try to ...hump me ...ewwu. I told him straight up umm are your hormones up? Calm down. He just looked at me and laughed.

I am so confused he is sweet but I don't know ahhh. I would call him so he could know I am still interested (if I am ...I am thinking about it) but I erased his number lol. How would I ask for it again lol. ?

What do you think about this situation? Grr I was happier without all these troubles but I am semi-interested but then he is not a virgin grr.

??? SORRRY FOR THE long story... sigh