Throw away a beautiful relationship?

This has happen to me, just recently, maybe not as lovely as yours but the same nonetheless. There was this guy that liked me very much, but like you I wasn’t feeling him in that way. I mean he was cool to hang out with from time to time, and whenever I needed him for anything, he would come running. He really wasn’t my type and I really wasn’t feeling him in that light, but our friendship was growning stronger.

I told him, like you, I wasn’t ready for a relationship and that I had other things on my mind. but we start spending more time together. He made sure I had everything and took care for me for a couple of months, while I was having school problems. I mean, this guy even told me that this is what I had to look forward to if I was with him. But the problem was, I didn’t see it.

Even though we was spending everyday together, and he was basically coming home to me, I didn’t see it. I mean, I give it thought. Because we were good friends and he took care of me in more ways than one. But I couldn’t see us spend the rest of lives together. Even when we started having sex, I couldn’t tell him I wanted to be with him. And it was crazy, I wasn’t seeing anyone else, I was spending every day with him, we talked like 5 times a day,and I still didn’t want to be with him, even though he was such a nice guy.

Well about a month ago he had a fight, for something stupid, but the fight was pretty bad and we didn’t talk again until now. Now knowing that I didn’t want to be with him still, I called him and told him I missed hime, which I did, and told him to come over. When he get here, we are talking about the fight, and then start talking about us…ect. Long story short, we started talking from time to time.

But the point was, I wanted to feel that, that little something you get when you hear their ring tone. I wanted that joy you feel when they come to your door. The feeling of wanting him, and that never did come, even after the argument.

So I say this to you: For one people do it all the time where they have relationships with people that may not be their first choice but their best choice in the long run. I don’t know if they are happy, but the are comfortable with the way their life is. It is clear that you have love for this guy or you would have been with him for two years. However, if you are seeking that end all love, then you have to do what is right for you.

You have to ask yourself, would I be ok like this for the rest of my life. Would be ok with the fact that I am not in love with him, but that I enjoy his company. Sometimes people make better friends than lovers. And some people make better lovers than friends.

When I settle down with someone I want both, and at my age I have time to shop around. And maybe so do you. People who are in LOVE have wonderful relationships. I dont mean that as they don’t fight and have different situation that occur, but that they help each other in the horrible time and good. They Love each other when they are poor or rich. Nothing can come between their love because they won’t let it.

I have a friend right not that is dating a guy in prison, and you can’t tell her one wrong thing about this guy, and the same for him. I doesn’t matter that they have this large barrer between them, it won’t stop their love and loyaty to one another.

Maybe you should give some thought to your relationship more, and then ask yourself “ what am I willing to settle for when it come to love” If you are willing to take the I can grow to love you no matter how long it takes, then you should stay. But if you can’t live with the growing part, and you think it should have happen by now, then you know what to do on that note as well.

Listen to you heart, no matter what you tell him, if he is truly your friend then he will support whatever you tell him in the end.