Should I put up with my fiance hitting me?

You need to get out of this VERY dangerous, and unhealthy relationship!

Have you ever heard the saying, “we teach people how to treat us”? Well, by you allowing him to disrespect you, and have total control over everything you do, he is going to keep doing it!

“1 in 4 teens who have been in a serious relationship say their boyfriend or girlfriend has tried to prevent them from spending time with friends or family; the same number have been pressured to only spend time with their partner.”

Extreme jealousy and possessiveness are very bad signs in a dating relationship. If you are a teenage girl, and you have a boyfriend who acts extremely jealous if you so much as talk to another boy, you may be tempted to feel flattered by his jealousy. But don’t. Extremely jealous boyfriends also tend to be very controlling and emotionally abusive. They want you all to themselves and they may even start trying to force you to cut back on the time you spend with friends and family members. They say they act this way because they “love you so much,” when in fact the real reason they behave this way is to try to control your every move. They want you completely under their thumb. They may have deluded themselves into thinking that they love you, but what they are doing to you is not loving behavior.

So, within yourself, even though you love him, you need to resolve to LEAVE the relationship if things don’t change. Remember, you do not deserve to be treated this way – you are not an animal on a leash, you are a human being. And this jealous behavior, if your boyfriend doesn’t change it (or if you don’t get out should he refuse to work on it) is only going to get worse.

Good Luck!

Girl we are in the same boat. Do NOT let him CONTROL you. I kno hits hard to admit to yourself that the man of your dreams is too controlling and you shouldnt be with him, but truth be told no man should EVER put his hands on you no matter how ad you make him, push his button, anything

I am in a situation where my man is too controlling he is YOUNGER than me, me and you are around the same age. He doest let me hang out with boys, calls any of them even if they are just firends, ive never cheated on him, I can’t go tothe club, i have to tell him m every move, when he gets mad he hits me and hurts me and then turns around and says oh im sorry, or he’ll tell me im a cry baby this and that, i can’t go to my best friens house anymore b/c there is aboy next door he thinks likes me, and i can’t drink around anyone but him, I can’t hang out with sum of my old friends who are GIRLS mind you, it is terrible, its only been 8 months but i can’t let him go, i keep lettin him hurt me, all i kno is that you can’t do this forever do not let him keep doing this to you

my advice let him go completely for 3 dayz.. then try to start things back again see if it has changed, or brought u closer together, or see if there is real hearted apologies, and then let it go form there.

if you feel an empitneed between u two after this break you will know you need to give it up. no one wants to give up on love, but is this true love??

but you wont be able to tell unless you completely cut him off for a few days no calling texting hanging out nothinggg, if u dont do that you will never be able to tell. dont b scared he will “ leave you” on this break, if he really loves you he will think about why u may b mad,

remember… whats meant to stay will find its way back. that is the ONLY quote i belive in. good luck mamaz

NEVER put up with that. It’s not right Make him get help and if it doesn’t work, then I know you love him, but, leave him. Don’t put your LIFE at jepardy like that!

try your best to get out of the relationship. it will be so hard but if he is hitting and threating your life now only imagine what it will be like in 5 years if youre still living. and do you want your child around an abusive man seeing you hurt or god forbid him hurting her. at 17 where is your family? and friends? do they know? im sure they would al say the same thing

He HITS you! Heck no you shouldn’t be with this guy. He has some serious control issues. If it’s like this now, imagine how it would be later!! Get out! Get some counseling.

Good Luck!

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