Why am I short tempered?

Try to figure out what’s causing your anger and outbursts… you can’t usually do that till after each episode, but it’s a good idea to look back on the situation and think how you could have approached it differently. Everyone can lose control, but if you’re always doing it, you are going to alienate the people around you.

I don’t do or say anything to people, but I feel heated up when I’m in the middle of something.

Because you don’t have control over your emotions?

If I were to guess, I’d say that you are most likely short tempered because you are impatient and don’t know how to deal with situations that do not go as you expect or as you would like for them them to go. I don’t really know you so I can’t say that’s definitely why, but I know a lot of short tempered people who fit that description.

In any case, I think you need to try teaching yourself how to take a few deep breaths and relax when you start feeling agitated. Take a few minutes to yourself to give yourself a short break, then try whatever you’re doing again. If you get frustrated again, take another break. It may take a few minutes to get through what you’re trying to do, but this way you can work on not having a huge anger explosion in things you do. If you have one, that’s okay. Just keep trying.

Your temperance is a result and effected by your patience. Patience for BS, patience for pain, patience for authority, so on and so forth. If you want to harness control of your temper and become its master rather than it being yours you need to practice patience and humbleness. If you are religious then get your Bible and read the book of Job. That man embodies patience, just look at everything he went through and lost in a short period of time yet only in grieving did he lose his temper but never did anything wrong or out of hand.

LOL, I know that feeling. Sometimes our expectations of ourselves are way too high. I think Mel’s advice above is excellent - short break, calm down, that old thing about counting to 10 and breathing… it really does help.