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some one please help..im so not into porn when im in a relationship and I just found porn in my dudes dresser and he knows how I feel about this what do I do
People are ultimately responsible for achieving their orgasms. Because of differences in schedules, or other reasons, he might just need more action. If a guy has accepted responsibility for his own orgasms, which includes self-pleasure, rather than seeking a different female outside of your relationship, you should actually be glad that he's being loyal to you regarding physical contact.
Women who break up with a guy or badger a guy over porn are really just distancing the guy from them. All that the guy will do is work harder to hide his stash or porn, or do it online more...or, possibly, turn to physical activity with another female, because the one they're involved with is acting really ignorant about their more responsible way of getting off.
Would you rather your boyfriend j/o on the toilet or go out and hire a hooker or start trying to fuck one of your friends?
Also, what if your boyfriend simply needs to see 2 women getting it on, in order to get a full-blown hard-on or something? This is nothing aganst the female he is with, just perhaps what he needs to get the pump primed, so to speak.
Besides, if a guy's wanking off at home, he's not shooting off in a female who might give him a disease or who could possibly get knocked-up or something...or, split up your relationship.
If you want to actively be involved in your friend's orgasms, perhaps you can offer to be there to help him get off whenever he's looking at the porn....lend a "helping hand", as it were! So, if you want to have sex with him every 2-3 days, but he needs to shoot-off twice a day...wouldn't you rather be there to give him a helping hand, than to try to shame and humiliate him, turn him away from you, because you want to judge something like a guy's porn? As long as he's not into something that you object to, or that's illegal (okay, sex with minors, animals, or certain other behavior) - then nobody is actually being hurt. If you want to be there for each and every single orgasm the guy has, you're probably going to be one tired gal...or, perceived as a stalker of the guy, even if you live in the same place! Some gals don't want the complication of another person, so they let their imagination go wild and will "go to town" with their oscillating, vibrating, gyrating D-cell battery king-kong dong dildo or something. I can tell you right now, that most guys want to be around to watch the woman going to town with the dildo or clit vibrator, or whatever it is that they use. By the same token, sometimes, without any rejections (such as swallowing or not), or because they want to fantacize about something, but not actually do it - like fantasy over a 3-way, but are happy doing the real thing only with you) - wouldn't you rather the guy have sex with you, then wank while thinking about a 3-way, but actually be faithful to you - and not go out and actually do a 3-way, unless you're voluntarily involved in it?
well its completely normal. almost all guys watch porn. its just natural.lol. its not like he's cheating on you. so just tell him what you think. I bet he wont think he's doing anything wrong. because in my opinion he isnt. its just porn.lol.
ha. maybe you should watch them and then re-enact them with him.haha. sorry I just think thats funny. Well good luck.
talk to him about it. but like you have to know that guys are sexual. takin there porn is like taking away a girls makeup. lol. but ya just talk to him bout it
If he's looking at porn, he won't be cheating on you! :)
Hope I've helped xx
