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Ok.. so there's this girl I was childhood friends with until I was about 14, where we kinda lost contact.. I'm 19 now. At her dad's 40th, which was around when I was 14, she got one of her friends to ask me out. Me being a stupid little boy, I rejected her.. now I reget it. but how could I see her at the age of 14 anyway when she live like 2 hours away??.. Anyway, I've only seen her a few times since.. she was at my dad's funeral like 2 years ago and shes been to mine once or twice since.
Recently she added me on msn myspace and we've been talking heaps. I'm even talkin to her right now. I talk to her more than I talk to my close friends now, and sometimes I think shes the same. I find our conversations easy and effortless when I talk to her which I dont normally get when I talk to girl on msn or in real life. We tease each other etc and the other night she was tellin me she was naked (if that even means anything, but anyway). I'm starting to like this girl and I think she could like me too, I have that gut feeling when someone like me which has worked before, BUT...
After reading her myspace (or stalking, whatevs) I found that apparently she has a boyfriend.. not only that but they've been going out for 4 years... what? that means she was 15 when they got together?? I thought high school relationships weren't supposed to last that long..
Whatever, my point is.. it's just so hard to believe she has a boyfriend, I've'e been talking to her for like a week or more and she hasnt mentioned anything. (at the same time though I have been avoiding the subject) Maybe because of msn I could be just reading this all wrong? Maybe she is just naturally flirtacious?? idno
I'm going overseas in a month or 2 and shell be there aswell. Im wonder if theres anything I can do. I certainly dont want ruin anyones relationship. I was thinking he could be just a really close guy friend but theres like 'I love you's on her myspace aswell. Now I like this girl I dunno what to do.. why do females have to be so confusing? maybe im just getting the wrong picture? help please
ok she has a boyfriend, but theyve neen dating for four years, shes curious. just be one of those guy friends for her that will be there whenever for her. for her she prob just wants a healthy friendship with a guy and as for the flirting, like I said before shes curious, four years is a reallyyy long time and your young. so just make the best of your friendship, trust me it will all work out alright. and maybe she doesnt wanna tell you about her boyfriend cause she might think youll quit talking to her or that it might be akward and you might grow apart, she doesnt want to lose you. as for the distance, trust me from experience, long distant relationships dont work, just be that guy friend for her:)
if she had a boyfriend...why would she tell you shes naked? seems trouble but it looks like either she has one or not and if their relationships been going on for that long it looks like to me that she does have one because you know quite a bit about it. Maybe you could ask her friends or ask your friends to find out somehow but im pretty sure you should ask her too, like a general question about life. Im sorry but the question confused me a bit and im sorry if it didnt help I tried :)
