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Need help with my mum

So theres this guy who was our neighbour at our old house and we knew him for like 7 years, and we are pretty close with him. then one day I come home from holidays to go to my mums (last week) and I say something about him and she says oh we can’t go over there anymore he was cheating on me (with this girl who was living with him who we all really liked) and im like wtf I didnt know you were together… the next day shes crying her eyes out and explaining stuff and I got pretty confused.. shes been depressed for days now. She drinks more and slightly overdoses on these sleeping pills and then goes out to ‘clear her head’. she went out afew hours ago and I’ve called her about 3 times 30 mins apart and she said that she’ll be home in about 5 minutes. But shes stopped picking up and its been an hour since I called her last. erlier tonight she told me to send these random texts to him and im like ok.. and I get a text back from the girl that the neighbour was with (from the neighbours mobile) and its this whole long text explaining her story, like the neighbour only had a sex relationship with my mum and then found the other woman for a senciere woman.. and near the end it says my mum went over there the other day and destroyed their things and hit the girl, and if I keep texting them she’ll call the police. But yesterday and thismorning the neighbour guy was asking my mum to move in with him and stuff. I really dont want to show the text to my mum.. I think she’ll do something stupid.. and im really worried about her not answering her phone. I am soo messed up. I d k what to do.. Ideas?

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Answer #1

I wouldnt show your mum it will only get her back up and she might go over and hit her again. It’s best to have no contact with them again. you cant get on with your life until you keep them out of it. Your mums oubviusly going through a rough patch, shes been cheated on she will feel horrible. You will have to try and get her hopes up, put on some happy music, invite some family/friends around for a party, take her out for a meal.

She’s proberly stopped answering as ( I dont mean this in a bad way) but shes sick of ahving to tell you she’ll be home in 5 mins when you both know she wont. She’ll be okay, its her way of trying to make light of things. She just needs time to think things through.

If the neighbours asking your mum to move in and then the other womens saying keep ot then maybe he does want to get back with your mum but the other woman doesnt want him to. In the future maybe a few days or weeks it would be good if your mum had a discussion with the man to see if he’s going to comit to her and to see who he wants to be with.

Also you cant “slightly overdose” if you think you’re mum has ever overdoes ring the ambulance straight away ( she will be unresposive). She will proberly be home soon, im guessing she’ll be drunk? If she goes to et more drink try to persude her to go to bed and get her some water and a hot water bottle and put her to bed.

hope this helped sorry for the essay! good luck x

Answer #2

she had overdoses of valium with alcohol.. it can cause drowsiness, risk-taking, more depression, comas, and thoughts of suicide. my grandma is over now, its 5 30am and theyve called the police stations and hospitals. weve called her about 15 times now, she isnt picking up.. it rings for afew minutes. Gargh./

Answer #3

We’re getting a search now with the cops, thanks for answering

Answer #4

yea.. ok.. we found her.

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