My mum and other guys.

Unfortunately, your mother might be emotionally damaged after her divorce, and sometimes adults just find themselves the closest person they can find who they think can make them feel loved and not alone, just so they wont hurt so much, even if just for awhile. She feels a need to move on, but right now her emotions are all over the place, and you need to understand that she has to work it out on her own that having sex with a lot of boyfriends wont bring her to what she wants - a stable relationship with a new man she can trust. Give her some time.

I’m sorry to hear that you’re stuck in such a situation. Don’t feel alone. Many kids go through this too. Yes, talk to your brother, he will probably see that you are not yourself and that you are worried for your mother and yourself. You’ll be able to have someone to relate to, if you do not wish to speak to your mother. Even if he tells your mom, I am pretty sure that your mom already has an idea of how you may be feeling, but just doesn’t know how to approach you about the situation as well. Remember, this is both new to you and your mother.

But I suggest that eventually, you should talk to your mom. Ask her how she’s feeling. Tell her how you feel, that you feel that you might feel left out if she marries a new guy. Ask her what your family’s future will be like. Tell her that you love her, and you want her to be happy. When you talk to her about these things, it will also help your mom get into perspective. She will see that she still has a kid to look after and love, and needs just as much attention. Hopefully she’ll start looking for a more secure and permanent relationship.

It’s good that you think about your mother, and what others might think of your mom. You’re a good kid. You need to be brave now, and learn to be independent too. Show her that you’re a smart kid, and you know what’s going on.