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Should I be mad at my man saving an old poem?

So while I was saving a draft I had done on my fiance’s computer, I saw an unfamillar file, so I clicked it. I read one of the messages on their and it was a love poem he wrote to some girl a while back. While I was reading it I started to cry because he has never treated me or saw me the way he saw her. And I guess thats what I want, is for him to do that. But I know that cant be, because I am me and she is she. Me and him sort of fell in a relationship after I found out I was pregnant at 17. We didn’t know eachother that well at the time and things were rushed between us. I am 19 now and my son is 9 months old. I guess my question is should I be mad at him for keeping his poem/ryme he wrote to her? Or should I just forget it cause it was in the past?

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Answer #1

If you are going to marry this guy, I dont think its very fair or thoughtful of him to be saving old love poems and momentos. You two are going to be together (hopefully) forever, and will be pledging your absolute self to one another. You both will have to compromise in your relationship. Not that you should have been snooping, however I strongly think you should discuss this with him. He would not like it, I assume, if you had a poem from your ex, or had one saved that you’d given to him. And if he puts up a fight, and especially if this is not the guy you truly want forever, I would rethink this marriage. Getting married just because you have a baby does no good for either of you or for the baby. Because if you wind up miserable, so will your child. Dont marry someone you dont love, who doesn;t love you how you deserve to be. Talk to him, the poem, and anything else he has like that need to go. I would be furious!

Answer #2

Well thank you guys a lot for the advice. I did talk to him about it and he says he hasn’t seen thoughs files in awhile, thats why he didn’t delete it.. He told me how he doesnt care for her anymore and the only person he loves right now is me.. :) and I truely do believe him :) Thanks u guys

Answer #3

Well,You shouldnt Dwell on it. He was obviously in love with her. Im still in love with my ex,but Ive moved on,sort of. She was probably the only woman he was truly in love with,or at least the first Lots of people have a hard time fully leaving their first love. if it really bothers you though,talk about it. Maybe your over-looking it. =]

Answer #4

I do not think you should be mad about it.

I know, first loves can be hard to get over, and pass. Its probably nothing, maybe he hasn’t got around to deleting the file, or maybe he’d like to give it to you. I’m sure that he’s seeing more in you than any other woman, and he gets to show you it every day! So he doesn’t have to write you something.

Although, if you are worried about it, I would talk to him about it. Just ask him how he feels and if he has feelings for his first love. That may cause problems though, so you have to judge what your significant other’s reactions are going to be.

It was in the past though, so don’t fret too much!

Hope I helped..

Answer #5

You are welcome Emily. I hope your marraige works out well.

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