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I tell her shes beautiful all the time and she really is to me but she told me that she always tries to look her best to show everyone that shes pretty so they dont think I have an ugly girlfriend, I have seen her w/o make-up and I have seen her with a crap load of make-up on and I always think she looks very attractive I like it best when she only has a lil makeup on but other wise idc, the only thing we have ever argued about is whether or not she is beatiful, sometimes I think she has some kind of inferiority complex, she says shes not as beautiful or attractive as I think. Is there any way I can explain or convince her that she is beautiful that she is not ugly, that no matter what she looks like I always think she looks amazing, that she doesnt have to strive to look good for me?
lol natie sry to say she doesnt have like any acne at all... fck im the one with acne like EVERY WHERE and she knows it and says she dont gve a fck...and well I guess I do it to her also LOL we took a pic of us kissing and she was like you look like an angel and I was like "Wha?..." I look retarded my hair is all poofed because of wind and your hair is FLOWING in the wind and she like I look like a fag... oh well this isnt a HUGE issue for me I mean were completetly in love and everyone is like wtf theres no way you guys are rushing and im like uhh... no... just because we have decided that the other is the ONE doesnt mean we rushing... sure we got engaged after a month anda half... sure im 17 and she 15... but were not getting married until im at least outta college... and I've made a promise to my parents and her parents that ME would stay a virgin untill I was at least 18... she will only be 16 by then so we will probably wait longer... but god do I love her... whenever she looks into my eyes I just think her eyes loook so amazing... they are always different in someway but like 3 people have said my eyes look amazing and im like wtf? how they really deep blue almost black... but one girl that I barely know randomly came up to my (twice now) and said she could stare into my eyes for hours at a time... well I just had a huge epiphany during this... we both think the other is beautiful and that oneself is somewhat unattractive...
well, girls have this thing about beauty. Ask her if there's been a time in her life where someone has told her something that makes her feel that way. if she says nothing, then just leave it be. tell her that you know that she's beautiful even if she doesn't believe you, it's all about her being comfortable with someone saying she's beautiful. My boyfriend tells me that all the time, and I don't particularly believe it because I was told a lot in my life that I wasn't. I've gotten used to it and accept it after a few months. it'll just take some time.
okay this is tricky but it gets her every-time. and people can back me up on this.
Instead of telling her directly try making it so she hears about you saying she's beautiful. because sometimes girls think you only say that when they're right there with you because you don't want to be mean but if you make it so she hears it from another source (gossip, overhearing etc.) then she'll know you think she's gorgeous.
let me know how this works out.
okay this is tricky but it gets her every-time. and people can back me up on this.
Instead of telling her directly try making it so she hears about you saying she's beautiful. because sometimes girls think you only say that when they're right there with you because you don't want to be mean but if you make it so she hears it from another source (gossip, overhearing etc.) then she'll know you think she's gorgeous.
let me know how this works out.
Honestly, I think you've done all you can do. You're being very sincere and I can sense that. I think it's great that you're saying all of this sweet stuff about how beautiful she is and when you mean it, it's so much greater. Good for you! :)
I don't know what to tell you what to say to her. She obviously needs to accept who she is because it's very clear that she's insecure about how she looks.
Well as soon as you get the "awww" that means she is agreeing with you. When a girl is saying she is ugly, whatever you do, dont say that shes pretty. you have to be classy. Say that shes a star, or shes dazzeling, or my personal favorite "you are glowing sweetheart, thats all there is to it." if you keep up the good work, she will adore you, but if you become classy, she will love you.
Also, if she's complaining that she's ugly, but she's not, chances are, she knows she's not... She just wants reassurence all of the time and to hear you complement her. If you stop trying to reassure her, she may stop complaining, but it's also risky, because she may take it in the wrong way, that you don't love her anymore. So that's a 50/50 chance I'd say. Worked for me though.
I feel like her!!! see I have pimples and I wear make up to make me feel prittier koz I feel ugly.. and noone in the world can tell me im beautiful when im not I can so0o relate to her.. so I dont think you 2 should focus on that topic..
you 2 should just go out and have fun and not talk about looks
There must be some psychological hurt in her because you really sound like your trying to convince her never give up though.