Okay, so I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 years now, and we're both really good kids and all and waiting to have sex until we're married. He is however a guy and completely guyish...one day we were in our happiness zone(making out) and he told me he felt bad because he had been looking at porn and sometimes when he jacked off he wasn't thinking of me he was thinking of the pornstars...I had always assumed he looked at porn...however when he said it, I kinda started feeling like crap, like I don't have the body he wants or whatever...I'm not going too far into it. Anyhow, its been like almost 7 months since he told me that...and I saw in his cache(internet data stuff) that he's definitely looking at porn. I'm starting to feel really bad...like...I don't know. Why would he have told me that 7 months ago, and even brought up that awkward conversation if he was just going to keep looking at it? Anyhow...comments? But really, you'd have to know him so it doesn't do much good to just explain this..but comments?
well just like women men have sexual needs and maybe it is a little harder for him to wait until marriage and needs porn to get him through it. I wouldnt stress too much about it cause it is totally normal for guys. as for him telling you about it that must have been awkward. but he must have felt guilty about it and had to get it off his chest. dont you think it would be a little hard to think about someone else while watching someone have sex? anyway dont stress about it but if it really bothers you talk to him about it. it seems like you guys can talk to each other especially after 2 years = ).ask him why he brought it up and that it has kind of been bothering you... hope I helped and need further advice funmail me ~kaitlyn
Keep the faith. If you have a strong solid relationship stay foacused. Guys are turned on more visually then girls are. It is a tough thing speaking as a guy. If you are both serious about continuing the relationship. If I were you I would ask him about it. After all you want him totally focused on you and you both are saving yourselves till after you are married.
Talk to him let him know that this is a very important issue with you and with your relationship with him. Also talk to you pastor or pastor's wife for some guidance and direction. Porn is tough for everyone. God can get you thru this, Bit I think you are wise for asking about it. Remember that the body acts upon what the mind dwells upon.
I get that its hard for guys, and especially because we're waiting, but its kind of hard for me to make out with him while knowing that he jacks off to the thought of someone else who isn't his girlfriend. It just kind of makes me feel like crap a little bit. As for him telling me, he told me he felt bad and that he wasn't going to do it anymore because he felt like he was cheating on me...but why would he tell me that, and then go right back and do it? I guess I forgot to say he "stopped looking at porn" which is why I was so confused when I saw the truth on his computer.
