how can i tell my mom i want to live with my dad who lives in another country without hurting her feelings because my brother and sister did the same thing....?

yeah but the problem is that i live with my mom in israel and my dad lives in the us…….

You cant, unfortunately. I know it sucks and it is really hard, but this is one of those situations where she is going to get hurt. But, if you really want to be with your brother and sister and believe that living with your dad will make you happy, then you have to tell her. Because if you’re not happy, she’s not going to be happy. She will get over it, she’s your mother. Parents, usually, do what is best for their kids. It’s not always easy, but they deal with it. I’d start off with how much you do love her etc. And definitely tell her that you will miss her. She’ll understand. It will be hard all around, but it will be ok.

i think its the best idea to tell why you want to move and you want to try something new and go to better school and get better educations?

yeah well i wont be with my brother and sister but its just cuz i hate the place i live in and i barley know my dad and i do want to have a relationship with him …. and if i leave my mom would be alone ……

welll …… look at the reply i wrote to ty

and my siblings did the same thing …. i bet she’ll think somethings wronge with her ..

It’s not your responsibility to take care of your mom. She has to understand if you want to have a relationship with your dad. Have you ever spent a significant amount of time with him though? Like a few months? Maybe you can go over before school starts. Once you move, you’re kinda stuck there for a little bit.

And you can explain that it isnt anything about her. Like I said, situation does suck. But she’s your mother. And if you keep an open line of communication, she’ll understand why you want to move.

well now im at his place i visit him every summer cuz i live in israel and he lives in the usa

And you dont want to go back? Talk to your dad, see what he has to say about it. Then maybe you guys can talk to your mom together?

i told my dads wife and she said they would love to have me and she said that we will all talk about it together .. im not gonna stay here i have stuff in israel i need to bring and i want to see my mom , and i think that in the bottom line my mom is the one that decides..

dont get all mean i wanted you to understand .. but i guess whats the difference i can get education eny where even at the place i live in now ( israel) .

whatever. you can talk to ty not me giving advice to somebody nicely isnt just working to you so whatever.

hey ty can you tell her somethin abt whatever she wants bc me giving her advice isnt tht good and i dont like her gettin on my nrvs anymore thank you very much.

ok then . i have no idea why your mad ……………………………..have a good day

You know, I think you already have a pretty good idea of what you need to say. You need to explain what you want, explain what you’re afraid of (her being hurt), explain your reasons, and then let her know that she is the one who is going to decide in the end but you wanted to let her know how you feel. You’ve already got what you need to talk to her…

mmhmm whatever wonder why dont understand s.h.i.t cause you get wayyyy better education there. GTFO. go ask your mom bull crp nobody want to hear crp from your family s.h.i.t

ok , thank you very much … you really helped me in making a very big descition (sorry misspelled )in my life……..(:

you can go do karen now i dont give a sht. quit tryin to get involve with me and im not readin my nxt alert so GTFO and bye losers :p

Dont worry bout her, she wont be here long. Oh and you’re welcome :)

: )

yes, I agree. Part of growing up is that you will hurt people’s feelings sometimes following your own path in life. Your mom should ultimately understand.

Something you can emphasize is that you really want an adventure, to live in another country, its an option for you that you are simply curious about. Then you can always throw in that you are afraid you’ll hate it but you still want to try it and ask her if she can help you by finding your school or places of interest in line, etc. That way she feels a part of your decision and she has something to focus on being helping you. We moms just love to know that we are needed. So just be conscious of making her feel needed in some way.

good luck!

by “in line”, i meant “on line!”. Make her part of the fun :).

okk thank you so much i reallly appriciate it (: !!!