making it official

I was actually in a situation like this, but only for a month (and it did not involve sex, lol). There are obviously a great many kinds of approach that can be taken here. What I would suggest is the most obvious approach on offer. What you should do is actually talk to this guy and explain your feelings to him. You do not even have to ask him to be your ‘official’ partner, the best thing to do is only to tell him that you want to be his ‘official’ partner. That way there is less pressure on him and it will be a lot easier for you to talk about that (asking someone out/ to be official is very intimidating).

I would just have a long talk to him about your feelings. Find a warm and comfortable environment to talk to him in first of all (privacy is pivotal).Start off by talking about all the things you two have been through. In other words, reflect on the ‘casual relationship’ that you have had with him. Then slowly progress from there all the way to how you feel now. Make what you say flow and that will make things easier for him to digest. You need to think away from what he will say and start thinking about what the situation actually is.

A casual relationship no longer appears to be enough and this is no longer what you want. The two of you have technicaly been going out for half a year and so you are not being insatiable in wanting something more from him. Things like this are a gamble and you need to look at the bright side and not all the negatives. Tell him everything that you want to tell him about this and do not hold back. If the two of you share a connection then remind him that such a thing should not be taken for granted. Emotional connections are not something that all of us are lucky enough to find and so he should be reminded of how lucky the two of you are in that regard.

Ultimately you just have to speak from the heart. Holding back can only create a strain on the relationship that you already have and that is why I’m sure everyone here will recommend that you actually talk to him. Like I said, all you have to do is talk; you don’t have to ask him anything if you don’t want to. Just make sure you observe his body language and listen to what he has to say whenever he responds. These things could be indicative of how he feels about you and what his attitude is towards this matter. Be confident and have some faith in this. It is often easier to think negatively than it is to think positively, but once you get past that, things are a lot easier. I hope that helps :)!