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and what makes them that way?
No I don't think you do necessarily know the difference between right and wrong "once you get to a certain age".
"Right and wrong" are defined differently by different countries, religions, cultures, and social groupings.
To some people, failure to kill an "infidel" upon whom a "fatwah" had been declared would be wrong. To some people, the use of contraceptives is wrong, and a "mortal sin" even if the contraceptive is a condom and being used solely to minimize the spread of STI's.
To people in Spain a child of 13 is old enough to give informed to consent to sex and may legally be sexually active with (I am given to understand) anyone aged 13 or over, with whom they are not barred by familial relationship.
Yet in Malta and Turkey the age of consent is 18.
Presumably a man who legally married a girl of 16 in the USA and then went on his honeymoon in Istanbul, could be charged with child abuse (of his wife) whilst there, .....
on the other had he could have been legally taking his wife's 14 year old sister to Madrid for more than a year - where it would have been perfectly legal for him to have been having regular consensual sex with her ever since she had attained the age of 13.
If a parent cleans the genitals of his/her own baby I doubt that anyone would call it abuse. If the child grows into an otherwise normal healthy child, and still has it's genitals routinely washed by one of the parents as a teenager, most people would say that was wrong - and clear sexual abuse.
What age would you suggest the child would have to be before such "washing" became "abusive", and at what age do you think the child should realize that it was being abused and thus aware of the difference between right and wrong ?
Astonishingly, there are still areas of the world where it is considered normal and appropriate to (a) emplay 9 year old children for 12 hours daily and pay them less than $2 (US) per day; (b) mutilate the genitals of young girls as a cultural norm., (c) ritually kill children who have been identified as being guilty of "witchcraft", in order to counteract "bad luck curses".
At what age do people in such societies get to know the difference between right and wrong?
I am sure I don't know.
-- Best wishes - Majikthise
There's no percent or statistic to answer this question. Given that there's no real way to find everyone who's ever been abused, track them as they grow up, and then see if they're abusing people they're with. And there is no good answer to what turns one person into a batter or a pedo.phile and one person who fights their entire lives to make sure that it doesnt happen to someone else. Combination of genetics and environment, just like anything else. The argument that they learned the behavior is somewhat true. But then what about those who learned the behavior, but went on to do something different. It's not the people who grow up to be abusive who interest me. That is almost too easy to understand. They've grown up believing that is a normal pattern of interaction. What interests me is those with resilience. They've been studying resilience a lot recently. What makes people survive horrific circumstances and come out the other side. They've got a list of protective factors and a list of risk factors that seem to have an impact on people (none of these would surprise you, we're talking about basics like a poor environment filled with violence, neglectful parenting, etc). And it appears that the total NUMBER of risk factors and protective factors is what seems to make the difference, not the individual factors. But of course, you still have even siblings who grow up together react differently. So there's some level of genetics involved. Being more intelligent for example is a protective factor in some respects. But at the end of the day, this is not an easily answered question. If only it were simple enough to put people in good and evil boxes. But it's not. And even i can feel empathy for batters who were abused in their childhood. Does it excuse what they do, absolutely not. Still dont think I can deal with sex offenders. But then I know a few people who work with that. So who knows
I believe that the likelihood of an abused person abusing others will depend on couple of factors. First, did the person ever confront the abuser? Was the person able to heal and turn the negative experience into a positive one. From my personal experience, it's probably going to be one extreme or the other. Either the person will become an advocate to educate and protect others from experience that kind of abuse or unfortunately, they themselves will become an abuser (inspite of the fact that they hated their situation). Healing and dealing with the issue is essential for overcoming abuse.
It all depends on their psychosomatic state. It reads alot into how they react to it, how it changes them, when and how often it occurs, ect. Sometimes it can also read into genes such as MAOA, chromosome disorders like XYY(which is raaare, only 2,000 males are born in the u.s. with it each year.) You'd really have to read into it. If you want some help finding things out just let me know.
I agree with that also, But the person doesn't have to be abused to abuse their partner they could have watched their parents be in an abusive relationship and feel that's how a relationship is pose to be, I feel it's very likely that if a person has been or watched abuse they will continue the pattern till they get help or learn that it's not ok .
Maybe they would continue the pattern of abuse because that is what they are used to. Peraphs they think that because they have been abused themselves that's what they should do to others as well.
Not to argue but, once u get a certain age don't u know right from wrong? I do understand wat ur sayin so don't get me wrong
I'm not just bn specific on physical abues, I'm also meaning s*exual abuse and mental abuse as well
And people can watch others being mentally and sexually abused...