Is it what I think it is?*HELPP**

Omg..Im freaking out here..This thursday my boyfriend and I had a little fun as in we had oral sex..(I gave him head)..well the next day I wake up and my throat is kinda hurting.. only when I swallow though..it isnt excruiating pains or anything…but yesterday we went out again and we had a little fun then too..(he gave me head, fingered me, and I just massaged his dick for him*)Okay I have two questions here..if a guy fingers you,,can you lose your virginity to that?,,truthfully my period went off the day before he gave me head and whatnot..sounds disguisting I think* but enywhoo I went to the bathroom at the movies and when I wiped myself I found blood..and after I wiped a couple more times..only because I didnt have a pad or anything on me..,,later on I went potty again..and I wasnt bleeding..does this mean he couldve did it? or was it just my period? because before then when I was getting ready..there was no blood or anything..nothing whatsoever..so why now? because I was so hormonal maybe? I dont know… Now my other question is do I have a disease from giving him head? he has had a lot of sex partners in the past..usually giving him head..and I didnt have a condom on me at the time..it was 10 second head too..lol..not because of him but because I was only showing him I could deep throat him. But the very next day I woke up with this pain in my throat..and today I decide to look in my mouth with a flashlight..and what I saw scared the crap out of me…im not sure what a disease looks like in the mouth..but theres this trail of white on the cornors of my mouth..and theres also red bumps or like the inside of the white puss crap is opening up..I dont know how to expain it..and my boyfriend has sorta of a temper problem and I dont want to be rude and ask him..do you might have a disease or how long has it been since youve been checked out?…I told him about it and he said it might be strep throat..but I havent been around anyone with it… I’ve been looking things up on the computer and I came out to maybe thrush..,,but thats also sorda like some hiv/aids thing going on there.. so if you could please help me,,I beg of you..im going to the gyno for a pap july 7th..and I dont want my mom to think im going around out there…because im not.. he was my first for everything… and I dont want my first to be my last.. =…plus he didnt even penetrate me with his penis.. so I dont want my mother to think I had sex either..it was just one measley little finger..lol..well thats what I think anyone..it should have been just one.. I will have to ask him…but really I need some advice right now…before I go crazy…agghh..

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Answer #1

OK, Calm down…deep breaths…

Now.

Although, you can easily catch STD’s from BJ’s, (as you already seem to be aware) you would not have caught anything from him so quickly. This would take a few days to start showing.

You can have thrush in your mouth without knowing it and the deep throat may have aggravated what was already there. Many people have thrush in their throat without even knowing it.

It sounds like your attempt at deep throat made the inside of your throat sore. The throat has some very delicate membranes and they can easily get damaged by doing this.

You can give a perfectly great BJ without gagging on his dick. The deepthroat/gagging is just in porn movies and is abusive towards women. Surprisingly enough, nearly ALL porn movies are written by guys and often portray women as sexual nympho’s that cant get enough dick or women that are abused and forced to have sex. All fantasies of the writer of the movie.

Ref the blood you mentioned, sometimes a period can spot through a little a day or two after you think it has finished.

The other possibility is that he broke your cherry by fingering you or scratched your vagina.

It dont sound as if you have anything to worry about but you can still get checked out just to put your mind at rest.

Kiasu

Answer #2

Hey, Im the same age as you but I just broke up with my girlfriend, but we did exactly what you did… but more =] anyway as you said you were bleeding right.. ever heard the common phrase “popped your cherry” now this is usually due to 1st time sex, but it has been common (like with my Ex) if you get fingerd really hard. you said you got fingerd,, maybe you just got your cherry popped. moving on, you said with your throat. I.. the guy, have literly just passed something the same as you.. it lasted about a week for me. I caught it from my girlfriend even though she didnt have it. I caught it because we snogged 24/7, so if your kissing your boyfriend, maybe you should tell him to lay low with the tongues for a while because this is sometimes caused by bacteria, think about it.. swapping spit? If it becomes where you cant eat, drink or breathe properly, I had it and trust it gets better. also your tounge looks a lil weird but it gets better over time.

Hope I been helpful, Hayden. x

Answer #3

It sounds like you have a troat infection more dan likly it is not an std… its just because de bacteria in your body is sterile to you but others people can be really harmfull , this could happen from kissing or if you let him cum in your mouth … it should go away its self . but try taking strepsils or lockets to help with the pain these will also help fight the infection ! as for the bleedin it sounds like he broke you in tats all … dont worry to much ! Hope tis helps !! Xo

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