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my boyfriend wants to join the marines but im really scared about the whole idea of him being away and risking his life. I want him to be happy but I want to be with someone who is actually there with me at that moment to live my life with. what should I do I really dont want to continue to look selfish when he wants to do that and he knows my dreams about going to yosemite in california after high school and he said he will fallow me anywhere but sometimes I don't know if I want to be a future marine wife.
I guess I mean its also a if. if we are together by that time, I might be 18 and going on to senior year but I think I love him and im just afraid that if it comes to it and we do get married far into the future and we have a kid and he decides to go into the marines hes risking his life. he wants to be a sniper, it might not be in plain view but he still has the risk of dying then im left alone. and even if he was still alive all that time the child wouldnt have the dad there for them. I grew up without my dad there for me and thats the last thing I would ever want the child to go through. my biggest fear is described in the song it was all a dream by carrie underwood. the whole thing used to make me cry but im better now and he says mb he doesnt want to anymore but I know him I know one day he would want to and hes not saying hes inlisting as soon as he turns 18 he said in the future. I just dont understand why he doesnt finish studying to be a police officer hes doing law enforcement anyways but even tho now hes rethinkin it I know that hes raised himself to be a marine
you guys are all so helpful. my half brother is in the air force and has been seperated for months and months from his girlfriend and shes managed to stick by his side so they are engaged now. Im really really hoping he changed his mind and I am still young and it would be far into the future. mb he would see whats best for him and keep in mind the reason why im so afraid. I can see him as one and thats his dream. it used to upset me so much that I was thinking I would have to tell him if you really want to be with me then you would have to be with me not go into the marines but thats selfish and I changed more into the posibility that it could happen. I always told myself I would have to put my foot down and make them choose me or the dream but I cant do that anymore I changed so much and mb someday il be at least okay with it. hopefully
oh ok I understand...I get where your coming from, it is hard but hopefully by that time he will completly change his mind about joining that marines..Some marines are sent to war and some arent, but being a sniper cud probably sent him to war.. I don't know I mean if you really love him and cant see youself with noone else than I say to support him..But if you see your future as him being away for long and wanting to have your kids have their father around, then you really need to think about being with him..remember you are still young so dont stress about it too much...you'll prob. meet someone else who knows.. plus this is in the future, noone knows what is gunah happen dont let this affect you now, deal with it when it actually happens.enjoy life now with him while he is still der.
I really think all girls that haveboyfriends that are going to the marines to not want them to go. My boyfriends leaveing in September. :( But I never tell him this.Because it's his dream.And I wouldn't want him to tell me that he didn't want me to do my dreams.But the is some good.I'm excited for the letter writen.To get to see my man in his marines clothes and everything.To beable to see him once a month and go up with his family to see.I love his family.And I love him.Yes it's going to be hard for me.Cause we basically spent all hours together and we always sleep at eachothers houses and everything.I slept for the first time by myself in 5 months and we've been together for 10 months now.And that's where I felt myself not wanting him to go...
im in the same boat..my man wanna join the marines as well.. If he wanna join the marines why not..at the end it would benifit both of ya..If you think he is the one for you let him go and watch when he come back he would have money and be able to support you with a loving, house & family.. atleast while he is in the marines, you'll be in college and time woould fly by so fast.This is all thinking about the future...if you feel as if you dont wanna be with him forver den its time to move on .
You're like 18, why get tied down so young? Why do young people get tied down with someone so young! You've got your entire life to lead yet!
