Is it normal to be attracted to your father?

random question =]

not really that wrong!!!

Just because their profile says that a person is a certain age, does not make it true. For example, my profile says I am 13, but that is just because I did not bother to put my real birthdate.

Is that like a trick question or something…neways I dont know god knows most normal children are not attracted to their father…but soem kids are really weirdsome say during the early childhood days ure attracted more to one parent than the other…u could take that as some attraction during early formative years but later on in life you surely relaise that ure Father is not supposed to be attractive..there is got to be some limit…lol we live in a society with certain innate rules at least the western ones..u never know lol disgusting as it may sound you never know…but normally kids dont just fancy parents after a certain age thats just gross plain and simple!!!

It is, but only when you are very emotionally young. This is part of an article about Sigmund Freud, who dealt with the concept of this. I found it at http://www.iep.utm.edu/f/freud.htm#H4 Freud’s theory of infantile sexuality must be seen as an integral part of a broader developmental theory of human personality. This had its origins in, and was a generalisation of, Breuer’s earlier discovery that traumatic childhood events could have devastating negative effects upon the adult individual, and took the form of the general thesis that early childhood sexual experiences were the crucial factors in the determination of the adult personality. From his account of the instincts or drives it followed that from the moment of birth the infant is driven in his actions by the desire for bodily/sexual pleasure, where this is seen by Freud in almost mechanical terms as the desire to release mental energy. Initially, infants gain such release, and derive such pleasure, through the act of sucking, and Freud accordingly terms this the ‘oral’ stage of development. This is followed by a stage in which the locus of pleasure or energy release is the anus, particularly in the act of defecation, and this is accordingly termed the ‘anal’ stage. Then the young child develops an interest in its sexual organs as a site of pleasure (the ‘phallic’ stage), and develops a deep sexual attraction for the parent of the opposite sex, and a hatred of the parent of the same sex (the ‘Oedipus complex’). This, however, gives rise to (socially derived) feelings of guilt in the child, who recognises that it can never supplant the stronger parent. In the case of a male, it also puts the child at risk, which he perceives - if he persists in pursuing the sexual attraction for his mother, he may be harmed by the father; specifically, he comes to fear that he may be castrated. This is termed ‘castration anxiety’. Both the attraction for the mother and the hatred are usually repressed, and the child usually resolves the conflict of the Oedipus complex by coming to identify with the parent of the same sex. This happens at the age of five, whereupon the child enters a ‘latency’ period, in which sexual motivations become much less pronounced. This lasts until puberty, when mature genital development begins, and the pleasure drive refocuses around the genital area.

This, Freud believed, is the sequence or progression implicit in normal human development, and it is to be observed that at the infant level the instinctual attempts to satisfy the pleasure drive are frequently checked by parental control and social coercion. The developmental process, then, is for the child essentially a movement through a series of conflicts, the successful resolution of which is crucial to adult mental health. Many mental illnesses, particularly hysteria, Freud held, can be traced back to unresolved conflicts experienced at this stage, or to events which otherwise disrupt the normal pattern of infantile development.

ohh my god,,, whoever this is you are sick,,,and you need serious therapy for this,,, he is your father,,,the word says it all , I think you just want male attention that is why you are thinking about it which is very sick,,,seriously you really need help mentally adn emotionally

You may be coyour confusing your feeling of love and sexual love. you should ring a kids hotline for some phone counciling if your too embarest to ask your parents to get you a counciller. good luck

Eww. No it isn’t okay. You need therapy for that.

wow your 31…I thought you were younger than that. its definatelly not normal. get some help …

You’re 31 years old, and you don’t already know the question to this? You diffenatly need some type of help.

Maybe you think you are, but you’re confusing emotions…

No…it’s not

no. if you are, you really need to get some help. go to counselling or talk to someone you really trust. does your dad know you feel this way about him? does your mom? what do they think?

Yes, yes it is for some. Now with that said there is there may be a few reasons for it A. it is a longing for him to accept you the way you are for who you are (maybe he was hard on you growing up or wasn’t around)B.the female Oedipus complex ( cough-BS-cough )C. You may be one of some women that really truly desire their fathers in a sexual way. Just my insights but my daughter came on to me, and well after some time with a shrink, she decided with her it was C. so you never know. It has turned out great for us, If you do go after something with him make sure its not because of mental issues, and use protection.