What do I do if I'm 14 and pregnant?

Im 14 and Im 2 weeks pregnant. I had sex with a boy that I used 2 go out wit in elementry school but he moved away and now he’s back and soon as he moved here I gave it up 2 him. and now im pregnant. Im scared kinda because of my parents but im also scared that if I have an abortion which im totally against that ima b scarred for life and also I could have trouble havin kids later in life because of this situation. then again I want to have the baby but I know my family would be disappointed in me and I dont know what me and this boy would do finacially and everything because I know I will not be wanted in my parents house. please someone help me.

Answer #1

to mel20081: that wasnt what she asked for. she asked for advise. she already knows it was a mistake she’s f*cking scared and your rubbing it in her face! I’m sure she wishes she hadnt so you shoving that fact in her face is unneeded and unwanted

Answer #2

14 and pregnant! Girls please use protection you have the rest of your lives to have babies just wait!!!

Answer #3

Hey girl, I feel for you. I am 19 with a 9 month old son. I was 17 when I got pregnant. Having a baby is very serious. All the stuff you do now like party, and have fun, you wont be able to do thoes things anymore. You are 14 years old. You have to think also about the financial issues that might come with having a baby. You are not even old enough to work in a grocery store, and you would need to get a job.. But you are old enough to keep going to school which is the best thing out there. You want to have a proper education while raising your child, so you can be a good influence. There are places out there that will give you support, but ask yourself if you have enough family or friends support, because having a baby is a very emotional battle, especially being so young like yourself. This is a decision you have to make all by yourself.. But one thing of advice I can give you is “Everything is okay in the end, if it’s not okay, then it is not the end”! Much Luck to your decision sweety. Take Care

Answer #4

i think you have some serious options to think about i can relate to your problem i was 17 when i first got pregnant and the father was going into the army so i would basically be alone with a child i was also against abortion but it was my only option now im 25 and over it but at least i was able to go on with my life and not have that problem anymore i think adoption has got to be the hardest cuz when your pregnant you grow a bond with that child you grow to love it before he/she is born and when its born it makes you so happy to see your baby that you love finally in your arms and amagin you carrying your baby for 9 months which by the time its born your so happy to have it out and touch it and then its taken away from you for good that baby will not be the same it knows who its mother is and just think when that baby doesnt hear your voice anymore it will cry for that special voice or touch and it wont be there … i have a child now and i notice that when he was born somebody would hold him and he would cry till i grabed him then hes quite cuz he felt me and heard my voice and new he was with his mama and it comforted him so thats just a little knowledge for you when i had my abortion i was 3 weeks pregnant and it wasnt a baby yet the heart doesnt start beating till 2 months its concidered a living baby so hope all this helps but remember make the right choice for you and not for anybody else ok…god bless…missv

Answer #5

well have you talked to a friend because if i was pregnant i know my friend would be there but honestly i think u talk to your parents and see what they want u to do

Answer #6

OKAY YOU ARE PREGNANT.. SO YOU CANT CHANGE THAT.. BUT I HOPE YOU DONT GIVE IT UP.. THINK ABOUT THE MILLIONS OF ORPHANS AND BABYS THAT ARE SENT TO ADOPTION.. SAD.. :( YOUR BABY IS GOING TO NEED YOU. YOUR MILK YOUR TOUCH.. DONT GIVE IT UP.. NO MATTER HOW YOU ARE .. IT WAS A MISTAKE THAT YOU WILL LIVE WITH. AND JUST SEEK HELP.. WASNT WISE.. BUT ASK GOD FOR HELP AND GUIDANCE THROUGH THIS.. GOD BLESS

Answer #7

i think abortion is wrong killing a child not knowing if he or she could have done somethign great with there life… my twin sister died becuase of me and now i cant take it when i here aobtu another women killing there child.. rise it your self.. hunny i think if oyu have a child.. i mean its not the smartest but at least the baby will no the love of a mother.. and i wish my twin sister could have lived to feel that love

Answer #8

The best thing for you and the baby would be to give them up for adoption. It would be the most difficult thing to do in your entire life, because you will love the baby so much, but that way you would be able to go to school still and not have to take care of the baby. If you kept the baby, you would probably resent it when you were older, as you would probably not finish school, and have to get a job to support it.

If you dont believe in abortion, then just dont do it. If your family is against abortion, they would probably be more relieved that you do not want to do that, especially if you tell them that you want to give the baby up for adoption.

I hope this helps you some.

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