I need help like now

So here’s a little backround I live in a house with my boyfriend and two of his friends and last night we had a partyit was suppose to be just a small get together with some friends but it got a little bigger then that. So, my boyfriend is away he travels a lot for his job and well I wasn’t really feeling the party so I went to bed not really wanting to deal with any of the druken idiots. but like a moron I didn’t lock the door to our room and just as I was falling asleep some guy came in and had sex with me I don’t know if I should tell my boyfriend because I don’t know who the guy is and when I made a mention to one of his friends of what they would think my boyfriend would do if something like that were to happen and he said that it was my fault for leaving the door unlocked that I basiclly invited the guy in.

So, my qiestion is should I tell my boyfrfiend or keep it a seceret cause it was my fault?

Answer #1

It is NEVER your fault.

Answer #2

If you werent drunk, then how can you not remember everything?

Answer #3

did he rape you? or did you just do it?

Answer #4

I didn’t say I wasn’t drinking cause I was I just said I went to bed cause I didn’t want to deal with drunken idiots where did you get no drinking from that?

Answer #5

that c;early sounds like rape… you should obviously tell yout boyfriend.and probablly the police as well im guessing… :S

Answer #6

Where did you say you WERE drinking, because I dont see it anywhere?> my boyfriend is away he travels a lot for his job and well I wasn’t really feeling the party so I went to bed not really wanting to deal with any of the druken idiots.>>You said you WASN’T really feeling the party! That would indicate to anyone, that you werent into drinking, so…Not once did you mention you were drinking!!! And thats why you didnt want to deal with the drunken idiots, because you were sober. Thats NOT a tough one to figure out Hun! Drunks like to deal with other drunks, a sober person would NOT! Get it?

Answer #7

Why are you being so mean you know I’ve noticed a trend with you generally when you answer questions you are pretty mean I always lived by the rule if you don’t have something nice to say then don’t say anything at all.

Answer #8

I’m sorry, but your last comment wasnt very nice either. I was just trying to show that you never mentioned anything about drinking.

And I dont know how you can be so calm about being “raped”, if in fact you were…>*but like a moron I didn’t lock the door to our room and just as I was falling asleep some guy came in and had sex with me>>You say that so casually> I mean, your more concerned if you should tell your boyfriend, then reporting it to the proper authorities!. If I was raped, I would so emotionally DISTRAUGHT, and traumatized by it, but you dont seem to be the least bit upset. Your ONLY concern is if you should tell your boyfriend or not. That just doesnt seem right to me. Sorry, if I’m being judgemental, but rape is an act of violence, and should NOT be tolerated, OR ignored!

Answer #9

I guess you would consider it rape because I kept telling him to stop and he wouldn’t but a lot of it is a little fuzzy I mean I do have bruises on my wrists and neck and face so I know I fought back but I don’t remember things like his face or anything like that it’s like once he started I just shut my mind off so that I wouldn’t remember

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