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Is it possible to save a marriage after a affair. can you regain trust and can you really forgive.
In my opinion that is totally up to the individual who was being cheated on. You may be able to forgive, but you wont ever forget. Trust takes a LONG time to gain back once its gone. Both parties would have to being willing to work on the relationship. I strongly believe, 'once a cheater, always a cheater.' In my opinion, its a deal-breaker.
If you stay with someone who has cheated on you, youve essentially taught them that they can sleep with somebody else and youll take them back. The first time someone cheats on you, they have the most to lose because they dont know what your reaction will be. But, once theyve weathered the initial storm, they know precisely how youll react. By the time theyve cheated on you twice, three times, they know exactly what to expect. Lots of anger, and screaming, followed by a few weeks or months of good behavior on their part. And then, on to the next .
Even if you manage to get past the lies, the heartache, and the ten pounds youll put on or take off, a cloud will always hang over your relationship. Youll never truly feel cherished, or completely loved.
Theres no advice or magic wand to turn a cheater into a prince or princess. Consider them a lost cause and move on. Once you set your standards back where they belong, youll be able to meet and maintain a relationship with the kind of person you truly want to be with.
This is just one persons opinion.....you have to do what feels right for you! Your the one who has to live with that decision!
Wow, Angelfire nailed this question rite on target. My problem is that it is very convicting to me. I have cheated and been forgiven. In my mind at least I am still a cheater. I battle it every day. Trust is easily broken and very difficult to build. And once you have been hurt you put up a guard or shut down your emotional ties to the other person. If you are now, or considering cheating on a committed relationship. D O N ' T D O I T.
