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I'm 18 and want to move out my parents dont want me to

I just cannot deal with them anymore. I want to leave because everyday I go home they treat me like crap. I feel like a prisoner in my own home. For example I’m 18 and my dad takes my phone and goes through my text messages because he doesn’t want me doing anything bad. (I pay for the phone) He goes through my room all the time looking for anything that he can yell at me about. When I’m at home my parents have repeatedly told me that I am a “failure” that “I’ll never make it in life” and so many other things. They make me feel so bad I’ve thought of just giving up and ending it all. I’m never gonna do that but the fact that my own parents make me think that way scares me. My mom has also backhanded me a few times in the face because I said the words “I don’t know” to questions that I really didn’t know the answer to. My dad has put his hands around my throat and I thought he was actually going to choke me. I don’t know if they are actually going to hurt me one day because I won’t fight back because they are my parents and even though all they pretty much ever did for me is give birth to me they still deserve respect for that.

I have a job that pays good money and I have been supporting myself at home for the past 8 years. I buy my own food and clothes and I’m paying for college. I can pay for all of this and an apartment. I really want to move out but I dont know how to tell my parents that I’m leaving because I know they are gonna go ballistic and that scares me.

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Answer #1

As much as I would normally be against what I’m about to tell you, your situation is different. I moved out when I was 18 also, and I shouldn’t have. However, you live in an abusive home, and you shouldn’t have to put up with that. You are self-sufficient, and you seem to have your priorities straight. You should find a way out, but be smart about it. Look for a place that you know you will be able to maintain and pay for. I have the feeling that once you move out of your home, your parents will be mad for a while, so you need to make sure that you can make it completely on your own, as you might not have a place to come back to if things go bad. Also, no matter what happens, get your education, and do what makes you happy. The best way to be happy is to do what you love and provide for yourself. Good luck.

Answer #2

Just pack your bags and move on. What they are doing is completely illegal, especially your dad going through your texts, if you pay for the service and he goes through them its invasion of privacy. You should just up and dissapear one day, teach them a lesson

Answer #3

Just Go find a apartment then as soon as it come times to move talk to your parents and tell them how you feel..just dont let them tell you I know its your parents but your a young lady becoming a grown woman

Answer #4

yeah make sure your able to keep teh place or whatever bc being in a place like that you dont want to end up losing it and having to move back. trust me it sucks.

Just start packing your things and just leave if you have a friend or 2 to help you get themand leave as fast as you can thats how I did it my parents were mad for a while but now they are over it

Answer #5

Leave. You are 18 they are not legally responsible for you anymore. They cannot stop you anymore. Now you are a fully bloomed citizen. Only way to stop you is to talk you out of it. Everyone is born with three basic unalienable rights: life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. If moving out is what you want at 18 you can do it. If your parents try to hurt you call the police. They don’t have to be arrested but you could get an officer to settle things down and be a median.

Answer #6

If you feel your ready, move on. They won’t be happy but they’ll have to deal with it. Your old enough and from what I’ve read youv’e got a good head on your shoulders.

If you don’t want to upset them by moving out, you’ll have to talk to them about their lack of respect for your personal belongings and personal space. Your not a child anymore there going to have to learn to trust you

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