I got engaged to a guy who not feeling love for me

First, being engaged does not mean your love will grow — the ring is just a symbol. It means in many ways that you both committed to each other because of your love.

Now that he has moved away, he lacks that constant contact with you, or reminder if you want to look at it that way of how he felt before.

You can not convince him to love you. Either he does or he doesn’t. With this much distance between you it is VERY hard to maintain a good relationship no matter the best intentions or desires.

Don’t get me wrong, it can work, and I am certain that it has — but it seems in this case it’s not working. It also seems that either one or both of you is using a past relationship as the guide to if this is working or not. FORGET that idea — EVERY relationship is its own, and you (and he) will only ruin good things by comparing the past to what you have, or worse yet, comparing others from the past with who you are with now. It seems to me that your love for him has not changed, but his has changed for you.

I don’t know how long he has been gone (and I am presuming you actually met in person and not online), but if only for a short time, and this is happening, then being realistic, I wonder how strong his feelings were originally. You can be VERY good friends, and love each other (as friends), and still not be “in” love. There are so many ways to feel love, or to love someone, or to be in love…

I wish you well with this — but understand that distance makes all relationships hard to maintain, and in your case this is a very great distance and that makes it all the more complicated — Know also that you can’t make someone love you, all you can do is give them yours and hope that they return it to you — and if not — then you move on as life waits for no one, and you need to be happy while you can.

Good luck!