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How to help my older brother?

My older brother is what people call “hikikomori” (in Jap. Society anyway) He’s very depressed(dark and emo sayings when I see him), isolates himself and dodges everyone(including ME D=), several attempts of suicide(but failed), so much time sleeping (When I open his bedroom door, for the most part he’s asleep), doesn’t go out, lives with the famil still ( hes 24), no friends (or so I think, because he doesnt call anyone and no calls for him) his girlfriend recently broke up (because she stopped coming), stopped going to Church (is he anti- Christ?) and these are the only things so far so yeah. ( please don’t give bad advice or try to be funny, Im serious )

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Answer #1

Has he seen a doctor? He may have chronic depression, agoraphobia, or another disorder that could be helped by counseling or medication.

Answer #2

I honestly don’t see how people can attempt suicide and fail…

Also, just because someone stops going to church, doesn’t mean they’re against Christ, or even non-christian. Although it sounds to me like he’s probably wanting to be an atheist. I realize this question was asked 2 years ago but i still felt the need to reply.

He actually reminds me of myself in the past, minus the “suicide attempts.”

He’s most likely just gone through hard times and can’t get over it. What he needs is a friend, but he most likely refuses to let people in, for fear that they may hurt him or vice versa. You can’t argue with someone like this, so don’t.

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