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I am very close to my sister

hi, I’m going to start out and I know most of you are going to simply reply with “oh my god that’s nasty and sicK”. please save yourself, I don’t care what our opinions are in that regard. now then: my younger sister and I have always had a very strong close platonic relationship, although around the time she was 15 (I was 18 at the time) I had noticed her changing and developing and became attracted to her in another sense (although she also is a very loving, caring person and is extremely sweet in a lot of regard). I never acted on any feelings because 1) she was underage and jailtime is not something I want to experience in my life 2) obviously if anyone found out it could destroy the family or at least turn some heads 3) she seemed to genuinely love me in a strictly “brother” kind of way. however we both have had bad luck in the relationship department and have been there for each other when each of us has ended a relationship with a significant other and we are very close in that regard…but like I said both of us have had little to no luck in the dating department and I completely respect her and feel she is kind of my ideal woman (other than the fact that she is my sister). we are both of age now, so legally we could do what we want, but I don’t want to really disclose my feelings to her seeing as depending on how she reacts it could make things uncomfortable between us or a number of other things could happen. what do I do?

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Answer #1

…ii thiink that yhew need some kiid of help …this whole thiing is diisgustiing and yhew need too go to a therapiist…waht kiind of brother are yhew…buany way iim very sorry fr judgiing yhew but you need to just move on…because the way yhew descriibed her ii dont thiink shes very interested in yhew.butiif ii could help why dont yhew call my friiend vanessa and maybe she could elp yhew…call her at 1718 413 2068… hope ii helped… …Domo…

Answer #2

pinkdottedbow is right. once you find the right girl your thing will go away in a blast. :) :)

Answer #3

You push your feelings aside and try to live as normal a life as possible.

Incest is not legal - at any age, and that’s not even saying what will happen within your family if you try to pursue this.

You should try talking to a therapist to find ways to deal with these feelings so you can have normal relationships with people who aren’t in your family.

Answer #4

the reason why I think is because you and her have a lot in common and you just need a guy who could treat you right

Answer #5

uh, I’m a guy, not a girl trniboyz. this isn’t a lesbian thing mmmkay?

and ichibanarky thanks. yeah, I’ll probably just have to surpress the feelings that I have…there probably isn’t anything good that can come out of it unfortunately. thanks for your advice

Answer #6

You need to find someone who like treats you right try to keep your relationship with your sister as a brother sister relationship use your bond with your sister as a backfall for you love life not as the center of it. I don’t think your weird or need to see a therapist you just need to build up your love life and try to move away from your sister when you are ready

Answer #7

You should talk to someone about this. We wont get into what is right or wrong (because that is all obviously societally deemed), but in most societies it isnt acceptable, and to function in society, well we usually have to follow it’s rules… Nothing good could possibly come from this…

Answer #8

Really get out and socialize, and your little “thing” should start diminishing when you find the right girl. c:

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