How to tell mom you want to move out?

So my parents split up when I was 7 and I was never allowed to see my dad until last year when I was 14. Even now, my mom won’t let me talk to him that much, and when I’m grounded, which is often for pointless reasons, I’m not even allowed to talk to my own father… I’m a lot closer with him, and I’m getting fed up with my mothers insane rules. I want to go live with my dad and step-mom, and I’ve tried talking about it three times in the last year, but she blows me off, or yells and grounds me. I need help on how to tell her that I want to live with him, and be able to get it done.

Answer #1

Well I think your mom is keeping something from you or she’s just over-protective either one and your anxiety pills are VERY important, tell her that. Speak with her.Let her know you love her but want to live with your dad. Just straight out tell her!! thats what I would do. And try not to be as stressed out around her if you are. Make sure she knows your going to be okay with your dad. Try to show her your not little anymore but you’ll always be her daughter and that no-one can take you away.

PS. I’ll be praying for you!!!

Answer #2

well I cant say I know what your going through but try to leave hints that you want to leave but DO NOT threaten to run away. And when or if she asks whats wrong or something like that gently tell her you miss your dad and want to live with him. And dont forget to mention that you’ll spend a lot of time with her too. And if that doesnt work then I dont know how to help> ( so im so sorry if it doesnt)

Answer #3

Yeah, I’ve tried hinting for a while. And it’s definitely not for the rules sake. I don’t even like my mom as a person. And she’s taken me off the depression/anxiety medication that my doctor said I need. She won’t even let me talk to my doctor alone so I don’t get back on my medication. I really don’t know how longer I’m going to make it without blowing…

Answer #4

It is very hard and a touch subject. I can speak from experiance. Try to have an adult conversation with her first. If she does not understand how you feel then you need to ask your dad for advice. Maybe child services could also help you out. You are at the age where you can choose what you would like to do. Please don’t do it just for the rules sake. Make sure it is something you want to do because of love and understanding. Your mother will be hurt and wonder what she did wrong, just let her know how much you love her and nothing will ever change that but this is what you want.

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