Well I talked to my couslner about my 5 year old daughters behavior, shes very very curiose about sex. She acts sexy when she playing shell have barbies do inaproaite things , she told me once that her and her cousin did something they shouldnt of (rather not say) my couslner said a child that sge should not be all into sex like that and that is raises some red flages! She has a apt. Ina few weeks, I've talked to her about 'good touch, bad touch' and she dosent saw anything about any one touching her bad. If it did happen im sure it would of happened at her dads house hes in prison rite now due to selling/useing drugs. And she was staying with him on the weekends untill I found out what was going on, but since he was selling drugs that means there were people in and out of the apt. All day and all night. What if my daughter does not remember if she was assulted? What if it happened when she was to young to remember? Can they tell forsure if it happened without doing a rape kit on her? Please answer im so worried. Thanks for your time:)
There's no way to tell for sure unfortunately. Even with a rape kit coming out negative, there's still a chance that it happened. I am very sorry you are having to deal with this. I cant imagine how difficult it must be to think that you baby was violated in such a way. It is very possible that she cannot remember. She is very young and when we're young, it's hard to process things like that. The brain will protect itself by shutting out disturbing memories. Also she's young, so sexual assault doesnt mean much to her. She doesnt even understand the concept, making it that much harder to process what is going on. Sexual assault on children is not something I have much knowledge or information on, I wouldnt suggest you try to do this on your own (because the last thing you want to do is plant memories). I think you need to consult a child psychologist who has worked with sexually abused children. And your counselor is right, those behaviors do raise red flags.
A test is highly recommended bc of the innopropriate behaviors. Children are smart and act what they feel, see, or want, to express themselves. Shes telling you something, thats a sign. It may not b that big of an issue w/her, may b she just saw thing she shouldnt have. You as a parent need 2 get 2 the bottom of it, by testin or whatever. To get through this and get her the proper care. Not only that she about to start school and she needs to beaware of her privacies, especially to respect themsevles and others.
when I talked to my niece about this... I noticed that when she saw how concerned I was, she tought she was in trouble for something.. so try talkin to her calmly... she's looking in your face and reading your expressions... if you're letting it show that you're scared of her answer...she may worry about saying something wrong and shut down. thought I'd add that on to what has already been said. it may help prayers to you and your daughter, take care much love
Meaby have her take a test, but a five year old would remember Im sure sience at a young age like that we always remember what happens to us the most. And im sure she would have told you, she is inocent so she would have told you as if nothing was wrong with it.
But meaby have a coulcelor talk to her, in a profecional way.
Yes there is away they can do it with a rape kit. I was molested when I was 5. SOme kids dont remeber or some kids remeber but think its out of love. Let the professionals talk to her they can usually break the guard with the right question. Good luck to you and your daughter both. If you need anything else just ask.
