okay...deep breathes I'm a Virgin, I'm 18 and in my first actual relationship. He is not a virgin, he's had a couple girlfriend's, he knows that I'm a virgin, he wants to have sex. End of story right? wrong! I really like this guy, I don't want to disappoint him! I'm very insecure about my body! I don't know much about sex! because up until this point I've been virtually asexual, never kissed dated I've never even touched myself!m I'm not sure how to get aroused! I don't know how it feels! I don't even look at porn. so, what I'm asking for is advice, I know I won't be very good my first time, but I don't want to be god-awful, what sounds should I make what should I say? How should I touch him? what sort of things work for you? any guys wanna tell me what being with a virgin is like and what I should avoid doing? any girls wanna tell me about their first time and what info can you give a first timer to make this not terrible!? PLEASE HELP!
Don't go all the way at first. Try just exploring each others body. You can get seriously hurt if you just go straight into sex. Try some things on yourself, in know its weird at first but if you don't know how you get aroused then how is he spose to know. Make sure he is ready also, make sure he knows what your worrying about. Sex is all about communication. Good sex at least. Take things slow at first, you don't want to do anything that your nervous about, it ruins the experience. Research some things, it is good that you are asking all these quetions so you can kinda of know what your getting into. Always you condoms and be on birth control if you are scared about getting pregnant. Make sure you are wet enough, that can cause some serious irratation for you if your not and it might not just go in. My boyfriend couldn't get it in while he was spooning me so we had to do it doggy style at first. That might help also. Have fun with your partner, if your not ready than don't do anything. If you need any more help you can fun mail me, good luck.
u sound KINDA like me last year..[im 19 now]..but I knew a looot more than you did when I decided to go all the way with my guy, which helped out more than ever.
your WAY TOO INEXPERIENCED to have sex, hunn. you guys should try some other things first, if anything. I'm not trying to sound like a know-it-all..but c'mon. you haven't even gotten familiar with your OWN body yet, how the hell do you expect him to get familiar with it ?? I understand that this is all new to u, and it seems exciting..hell I feel excited for you lol, but u.r NOT ready. learn about urself..u.r diving head-first into something that can have your emotions on a level that they've never EVER been on !!! trust me, I know.
are you sure you wanna do this ???..like you waited sooo long to have sex obviously..I wouldn't want you to regret it. :/ I can assure you it's not gonna be relatively enjoyable since you don't even know what you like..so he's DEF not.
what you need to do is breath deeply..and think about what's going on here. not about what sexy outfit u.r going to wear.
ok well im 15 and I have a 1 year old son the first time I had sex I got pregnant. so imma tell you some stuff so the same thing wont happen to you lol first off make him wear a rubber lol thats one thing me and my bby daddy didnt do lol dont let him tlk you into not makin him wear one.. second it's normal to be nervouse the first time god knows I was just have him be on top that way he can do most the work so you will learn in time let him touch your body and kiss you where ever that will help turn you on and ask him what his turn on spots are and kiss or scratch them whichever he prefers and it will slowly start to happen help him get his shirt off and everything. and when he has his stuff inside you moan and rub/scratch his back, tell him if you wanna try something new like a diff position let him know and if you have anymore questions let me know because I've had sex a lot with my man lol and I know a lot about it
Brittany is right. You shouldn't rush into this. You need to learn your own body first. Try doing a search on "Female masturbation". Learn what makes you feel good before worrying about what to do for a guy. Also, guys aren't born knowing how to make a woman feel good, it takes a lot of experience. There are websites that can give you lots of info. Funmail me if you want to know more about these sites.
I had the exact same probe but if you want to feel better I was a bit older my first time. Just try to relax as much as possible. The key was my boyfriend was patient. We built up the the main attraction and not just in one night. We took about two months of letting me get comfortable with other aspects of sex and myself first. He let it be all about me.
Great answer Weneki !
