How to apologize to a unforgiving mother?

Tell her that you overheard what she was saying on the phone…that you didn’t realize she felt that way…and for that you’re sorry. Ask her “what can we do to make our relationship better?” The chances are, these arguements aren’t really about what it ‘seems’ they’re about…but stem from mom’s hidden emotions. Asking her for ideas on how to work together, and get along…might be the opening she’s been needing.

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Thank you. I’ve tried this, and it didnt work too well. =/. I wouldnt talk to her, so she would leave little messages on my phone..very insulting things and so on until i tried to talk to her.

And i also tried your strategy..not too much luck either. She didnt want to open up to me.. she said bottom line, i said i hate her and she dont believe my apology. So im jus clueless now!

what I’m noticing in both advices you received is that meganoskay and I are speaking as tho we left “anger” at the door. In both of your replies, it’s obvious that you are as angry as your mom….and that’s what the problem is. You must make a decision to leave the anger behind and be the CALM one…since obviously mom isn’t going to be. You can only change yourself, you can’t change her. Drop the anger, in order to get what you want from your mom.

i agree.

=) Thanks for the help. Sorry I haven’t been on in so long.