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How should I take this emotional abuse from my fiance?

I try my hardest to make him happy. Back rubs whenever he wants, I get up and get him anything he needs, I clean and organize everything for him.. We have sex often, but not as often as he would like I guess. In the past month he has called me Bland Not Spontaneous, and we had a fight the other day and I said, I’m sorry that I’m not as good as all of your ex-girlfriends.. and he said Well… Am I overreacting, or am I in the right to feel like sh*t about it? I’ve told him how it makes me feel and he tells me that I need to stop feeling sorry for myself.

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Answer #1

You’re making excuses for why you havent left. You really want to have kids with someone who treats you like crap? This is the rest of your life. Your childrens lives. That’s how you want it to be? It isnt going to magically change, it isnt going to magically get better. You place no value in yourself or you wouldnt still be around making excuses for his behavior. You would have stood up to him the first time he did it to you, and left the next time. I wasnt being rude. Perhaps blunt. But I’m not here to sit with you for 6 months while you figure out that you need to leave (and you wouldnt be asking this question if you didnt already know this). So, you know you need to leave, what’s stopping you? You dont think you deserve better?

Answer #2

Your profiles says your 13. You cant be engaged at 13.

Answer #3

Dont take it you shouldnt need to have doubts about it, if I was you id call everything off he dont sound like he knows what hes got and he wont till its gone x

Answer #4

He has a son that is attached at the hip with me. I don’t want to break his little heart.

Answer #5

If you had ANY respect for yourself, you wouldn’t be asking this. You would have already dumped the a$$ and moved on with your life. Love isn’t an excuse for taking abuse.

Answer #6

Ouch TY, you didn’t have to be so rude about it. Maybe I did word it wrong only because all of the captions were already used so I had to pick something that was available.

Answer #7

‘How should I take this emotional abuse from my fiance?’

Dont? why on earth do you want us to tell you how to be even more of a door mat? if you’re not as good as his ex girlfriends, why he is with you, if you’re bland and not spontaneous, why doesnt he leave? either he’s not a great catch either, in which case he’s not allowed to say anything, or he’s just an insecure a** who needs to make you feel bad in order to make himself feel powerful. Either way, good luck taking abuse for the rest of your life.

Answer #8

I’m really 19, when I made my profile it wouldn’t let me move the year.

Answer #9

Oh well. His son, not your.

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