How do you cope with loss of a loved one?

Well first he wasn’t just a cat, he was a much loved family member, and I think people sometimes don’t realise this about pets and don’t understand the bond you build with them, and it’s awful when you lose a pet you’ve always had around. What you going through is understandable to any animal/pet lover. Instant replacements are not always a good idea in my opinion.

Our old cat passed last year, we’d had since I was five (I’m nearly 16 now) and it took a while to get used to him not being around anymore, I thought about him a lot for weeks afterward, and still think about him now and then.

Really for me, my bad feelings grew less and less over time, I felt after a couple weeks that they would never go away, but eventually they do. I really feel for you, and I hope you start to feel better over the next few weeks.

I know there’s no real advice in there, but I know how you feel. And I hope your sad feelings pass.

I have read a bit about your loss, but am just wondering…why did you have to put your kitty down?

knowing that people understand why I’m so sad right now is much better than advice at this point :) thank you so much! I keep trying to tell my boyfriend, but he just doesn’t understand..

You did the right thing…you eased his pain and suffering…in that there is peace.

thanks everyone. I’m having a really tough time tonight, too.. my boyfriend told me that whenever I need him I can just wake him up or tell him and he’ll be there, but he won’t wake up :’( it’s like he doesn’t even care when he’s busy sleeping.. he left me the day after brian died for the whole weekend, and now he can’t even wake up for five minutes.. I feel so lonely :’(

btw I’m not 100% sure what was wrong with him, because I absolutely refused to let them do an autopsy. I just couldn’t put him through any more pain, even if he wouldn’t be alive to feel it.. I didn’t want that for him. but when we got to the vet he had thrown up blood, turned yellow, his temp was so low, and his liver had completely failed :’( he was too far gone..

Don’t be so hard on yourself…every single person grieves in their own way, for their own length of time. It’s only been 2 weeks…Let yourself grieve…cry when you need to, talk to people about him…really that helps. And then time will begin to ease the pain. When you’re ready, do think about getting another kitty. Not to replace your old kitty, but to fill the hole in your heart. A new baby keeps a person too busy to dwell on the past, and gives out hope for the future.

Hugs…

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get a new kitty?