I am 14 years old, and am really shy. I hate it because I feel like im not being myself. Whenever I am around big groupes of people I am so quiet amd I really hate it. if amyone had some tips for me and how I can get rid of it please tell me! :) Thx!!
Well breathing and trying to stay calm is one good thing to do, if you feel relaxed then it can be easier to talk and so on. Body language can be important, if your in a group, say sat down with you arms folded and looking down then this makes it look like you closing yourself off, so good posture helps, as does making eye contact with talking to them.
Even if your just saying the odd thing in a group here and there, looking relaxed and making eye contact really helps, because then people won't notice it so much, and in time you won't notice so much and your confidence will start building.
What interests do you have? maybe there's a club you can join or something, and you can start in smaller groups getting to know people, and when your confident in a small group you will start to become more confident in a lager group.
This might sound lame, but write down a list of problems you feel you have in a group or around people. Think of ways you might be able to overcome them. Even if it's just one at a time. Everytime you feel you have a success you can make a tick next to that point in the list, it might be something simple like approaching someone and starting a conversation, even if it's just small talk, it's still a success.
It's a good thing to do, because you can look at it and say to yourself, yeah I did that really well today.
Don't let situations where you feel you didn't do well get you down. It's not easy to build confidence, but be positive and you will overcome it.
Oh, and don't be afraid to tell people you are shy, you might find them to be understanding and helpful.
Hey, I suffer the same thing, I am really shy around large groups and people I don't know. I started drama at school and actually became very good. I built my confidence and made new friends, I still am shy when meeting new people but I do talk to them and it is a lot better, it is part of who you are and people prefer shy to overly confident and cocky. x
What really helps for some odd reason... Is thinking that the world is going to end sometime or we will die soon enough and we'll never have a chance to do what shyness prevented us from doing. I guess what I'm trying to say is that... Just don't let chance go by because when you notice that with time nothing much will matter it will be TOO late!
well..u have to change some of your thoughts... 1-when you are moving 2wards large group tell urself its not anyone buisness who im or how I look like...trust your own thoughts. 2-when you are talking in specific subject focus on your words not on how people look at me.. the 1000 miles road start with a step...start frm now
lmfao awww thatssooo cute shyness. well I think shyness is apart of you you cant really get rid of it easily try breathing and counting to ten.method works depending on case and circumsatnces
I used to b shy when I was 13 2! but somewhere along 10th grade I just turned like RAWR! lol...juust try and step outta your comfort zone even if its hard dont worry u'll get over it =]
be your crazy self if people dont like it thats there prob dont care what they think , but at the same time dont be annyoying.
Be outgoing. Start a conversation with a random person. Ask them questions to get to know them.
