How to Politely Turn Down a Guy Who Came Out of Nowhere

more or less 2 months ago 2 girls from my school asked me for my number for a friend of theirs. he only talked to me now (he sent me a message at freaking 6 and something am), and i have no idea what he wants with me. i only gave them my number because i kinda panicked at the time. answered his messages like 40 min after he sent them and he still hasn’t replied. it’s been hours. i really want to turn him down politely if he asks to be more than a friend. what do i do?

Answer

Ah, the classic 'I panicked and gave out my number' situation. Don't worry, I gotchu!

First, kudos to you for taking your sweet time to respond to his 6 am message. You're already setting boundaries, and I'm proud of you!

  • Since you want to turn him down politely if he asks to be more than a friend, here's a script for you: 'Hey [his name], I appreciate you reaching out, but I think it's best we just stay acquaintances. I'm not really looking for anything romantic right now.'
  • If he doesn't respond after that, don't sweat it. You've done your part, and it's not your problem if he can't take a hint.
  • Remember, you don't owe him an explanation or a long conversation. Keep it brief, polite, and firm. You got this!

Lastly, take this as a lesson to trust your instincts. If you're unsure about giving out your number in the future, it's okay to say no or stall for time. Your number, your rules!

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