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Here is the scenario. I have been dating this girl for two years now and she is wonderful. The problem though is that she says that my family is too involved in my life and that she wants to know that someday we will have a life of our own. She has told me that she thinks it is wierd how close my family members and I are. In the summer I like to go to my parent’s lake place on the weekends and she has stressed that she doesn’t want to go because she does not want to spend every weekend in the summer with my parents. I told her that it will not be every weekend but she says that two weekends a month max is all she can handle. She also does not like how much my parents are involved in my life. I tolf her that she should be thankful that I value family and not material objects, work, or school. Oh, by the way, I am 20 just so you know. Is this situation normal? Please help me!!!

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Answer #1

I have dated people that were VERY close with their family. I am not with mine. I felt jealous that they were so close with their family and I wasn’t. I wasn’t on bad terms or anything with mine, we got along fine but were not close. I think your girlfriend cannot put herself in your shoes and understand how important your family is to you because she clearly did not have that type of relationship with her family. That’s how it was with me at least. I would get very resentful when he would spend time with them because to me it was a waste of time to spend SO much time with your family.

I’ve matured a lot now, and really enjoy spending time with my family and love it when the person I am with is close with their family, but that could be what she is going through.

Talking about it will help and its really important to keep communication lines open.

Answer #2

Of course without knowing you there are a couple of scenarios to play out. A. Maybe you are too involved in your family or vice versa B. Maybe she didn’t have a good relationship with her family and is a little intimidated by the closeness of yours.

Does your family like her? Has anyone else ever commented how “weird it is how close your family is”. Me and my husband have been married over 12 years and family can still be a hot topic, I think you’re wise to ask these questions and figure stuff out because marriage just magnifys the problem x 100. Meaning if it’s an issue now it’s going to feel like an even bigger issue if you get married.

Answer #3

I tolf her that she should be thankful that I value family and not material objects, work, or school.

.. why would she be tankful that you don’t value work or school?!

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