for almost 16 years I pushed down my emotions because I just didnt learn how to deel with em like everyone else because while everyone else was away at school dealin with all the drama and other stuff that you have to deal with at school I was at home in my room 24/7 away from all human contact besides seein my parents for a few minutes when I went to eat. then they finally agreed to let me go away to school at the age of 14 I was totally unprepared there was just too much drama going on at one time that I just flooded with emotions about things that happened years ago and that were happenin there. I tried to learn to control my emeotions but it didnt work I was just not able to cope with em so I went back to the only way I knew how to deal with em and that was to push them deep down to were I was emotionally numb. I've been doin this for a year now and I just broke down again today I was crying and I was shakin and I was pissed and there was just so much emeotions going on threw my head I thought I was going to die. I pushed them back down again but I know thers something wrong with me and I dont want to have to go through this anymore, is there any way I cna learn to cope with these emotions?
Problem with avoidance (and you're talking to the queen of avoidance) is that eventually it comes back to bite you in the butt... I kept myself numb by hurting myself, but that doesnt help in the long run and it all comes out in horrible ways when you cant suppress it any more.
I would definitely try talking to someone... If you're upset, tell someone you're upset... Sometimes we all need to rant, and that's where your friends come in...
Unless the emotion is overwhelming (and if it is then avoidance isnt always a bad thing) try and acknowledge how you're feeling, and accept it, sure it sucks, but suppressing or avoiding it doesnt make it go away...
I guess think of it this way, you can either feel bad now, or you can feel it later, only later will be a whole lot of bad all at once...
This takes practise, and its just a suggestion, but yoga or mindfulness training is supposed to be able to help... (they actually use these techniques during therapy, they are researched scientifically proven to help some people...)
Also keep in mind, highschool will not last forever, you will get out, and the rest of the world is not like highschool...
And yeah, I would look into support groups, or therapy if possible, it doesnt have to be a long term thing... if you have a specific problem they will often just deal with that problem and let you move on...
It's hard to learn to cope a new way when the old way stops working.
You don't have to be depressed to look for a therapist. Most schools and colleges provide a counselor for free.
If you don't want to go that route, I suggest finding your local community center and find out what type of support groups are available that you might be able to attend.
You don't have to cope alone. Find a good support system... family... friends.
I also suggest journaling. Writing things down will help you sort through your feelings.
xox Sika
they're a part of you, as they're a part of anybody. if people didn't have emotions, there would be no people. just try to take one thing at the time, and don't think too much. go with the flow, and one thing you have to understand is, no emotion last too long. unless it's depression... and in that case, I would recomen a shrink. but the thing about it is, you can't avoid being hurt.. it's life. crap happens
ii's not easy not simple I had to go throught that same thing I had somr friends at school help me
