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I think traditional gender rolls suck. Every relationship is unique and every person has their own unique strengths and weaknesses that they bring to it. I find that in the majority of happy and successful marriages the wife runs the household, manages the finances, and basically lays the ground rules. When there are arguments it is generally over when the wife says its over and she gets the last word. It isn't always true but generally women are better at relationships and everyone ends up happier if we let women run the show. Most of the marriages I see where the man is in charge are unhappy, short, and/or abusive. I can see where there would be situations where a dude has to put his foot down but if this happens much I'd say he is with the wrong woman. He should find a woman he trusts and respects.
I'm married and I don't have to that often, but I HAVE and WILL put my foot down when necessary and here's why: Even though my wife and I both work, do our part, respect each other, ect ect, the man is RESPONSIBLE for EVERYTHING that happens in the household. If something goes wrong or a bad decision is made that backfires on us, I have NO EXCUSES for not preventing that. I can't blame it on hormones or say I just wasn't thinking or anything else that the world would show understanding towards a lady for but never towards a man. I treat my wife with respect at all times, EVEN if I'm setting my foot down, I explain why, then she sees as well, respects me for it and I really love her for that.
Of course, both people in a relationship get a say. If one person does something repeatedly that isn't acceptable within that particular relationship, of course it has to be within reasonable judgement, then the other person should "put their foot down".It doesn't matter if the person gets mad if you put your foot down. They should take it as a sign that something needs to be worked out and together, attempt to solve whatever the problem might be.
The man is supposed the 'provide the shoulder' not 'cry and whine on the girl's shoulder'. The man is supposed to lead the relationship and be in control of himself and his reality. . I can write a lot on being a man, but through personal observation, not one of my girl - friends (just friends) ever want a guy who just cries all the time, can't lead himself and the relationship, doesn't know where anything about his life is going.
No ....Nothing needs putting down....All that needs doing is resonable behavior...being reasonable /rashanal and just in your actions towards each other...respecting each other.....and honesty comes side by side to a healthy long lasting fair loving good all round relasionship.........and spelling like feet down...should never be an issue.
Keep in mind we've been together 11 years and it didn't always go that easy, there were some big fights in the early years. Also, there is a BIG DIFFERENCE in being a MAN and just being an ass-hole. A real man knows the difference and earns the respect he recieves.
Depends on the situation, and it depends on what exactly you mean by guys "putting their foot down". In some instances, I would definitely say yes, as long as the guy isn't being a total as*hole about it.
It`s good if you dont really care how she feels or what she wants....You mold her into liking exactly what you like when you like....eventually you will have your self the perfect slave ...sorry...women.
Oh yea... If a man cant wear the pants in the relationship then i wouldnt like him at all. I dont want a door mat. I want a MAN.
Whats that joke I heard once... yeah my husband wears the pants - I tell him which ones to wear :)
There is a time and place but come on ....i am thinking anything....what you like,who you know ect
If using good judgement and for the right reason/s....
yea but girls get mad as hell wen we do lol
depends whats under ur foot
yes
