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My 20 yr old daughter has been going with a young man for over a year. For the last 6 months, they have been in a long distance relationship. She is in WI and he is in CT. She has been plannning to move there in a month. Since they been going together, he phones her several times a day (and night). He wants to know where she is and what she is doing and who shes with every second. She cannot go out with her friends or even have them over to our house without getting accused of cheating on him. She cannot even go shopping with me or fishing with her father without getting accused of lying or worse. She has spent her entire summer wowrking to make enough to move out to CT with and sitting on the couch waiting for the phone to ring. If her father or myself are using our own telephone, he gets mad at her or accuses her of all kinds of things. I can't tell you how many times I've seen her sitting in her closet crying, telephone in hand. She broke it off with him last night because he wanted her to tell one of our very close family friends to get out of our house because he didn't want him there. Since then he has sent flowers and called 15 times to say he would change. He even wants to fly to WI for the weekend to talk to her. Now she is half stepping about breaking it off.

I am really afraid for my only childs mental health in this relationship. She really is doing nothing to provoke these actions from her boyfriend. I will be really afraid for her physical safety if she decides to get back with him and move 1500 miles away. She knows how I feel about the situation but she doesn't seem to get how serious this could become.

Please, please advise.